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No Contact Orders

I am thankful that the papers were signed, notarized, sealed and delivered this afternoon. 

There is now a NO CONTACT ORDER in effect for my in-laws.  They are ordered to do everything in that cease and desist letter I sent back in 2002.

Any relative or agent of my ex, is now prohibited from contacting me, speaking to me, calling the house, following me,  harassing me, emailing me, intimidating me, disturbing the peace, or bothering my children, members of my extended family, my friends, people in my workplace, or my associates. 

The rules don't apply to my ex in the same way.  We have kids together, so he can contact me about that.  He can't scream about killing people anymore or steal money, dispose of joint property, or steal my things. 

The car? 

Ugh....I don't know. 

That is a gray area.  I caught him in a lie about that.  Do I dare share it? 

Well....when he wanted sole custody, he claimed he could go to work at 3:00 a.m. and come home by 3:00 p.m.   Now he's claiming that he can't get a ride from his coworkers who live out here because they get to work at 3:00 a.m. 

He has a weirder excuse so that he doesn't have to ride the bus. 

Something is fishy.  I think he wants my car to keep me from working. 

I think I have an alternative mode of transportation I the works. 

Hooray!!! 

Now, I have to wait for the first hearing. 

I'm hoping it goes well. 

I'm hoping I have a job by then. 

I feel a lot more hopeful knowing that I can get Shannon or Doug arrested for being near me due to the No Contact Order.  I no longer have to prove mischief or receipt of the Cease & Desist letter on their part.

I feel so much lighter. 

I decided to keep my name. 

That will piss the crap out of my in-laws.

They can stuff a rock up it. 

I am too darn busy to spend four hours at the DMV getting a new driver's license. 

I wish I had someone to go out and celebrate with. 

Love ya,

S.

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