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Today I am thankful that I know how to expose lies. 


He claims that he ruined the engine of his sporty car.  

He is taking my mini-van with 188,000 miles as his own.  I never know when it will be returned. This is costing me numerous job and training opportunities.  

He can't have both cars, so I asked him if I could have his non-running car in exchange for my old van.  I'll get the car fixed on my own after he moves out and I can find a job without him interfering with my ability to get to and from work.   

He refused.  

I think he's lying about destroying his engine.  

I want to move out.  

He won't take care of the kids or the house.  

I asked him to move out.  

Then he starts crying that he wants to fix our marriage.  

NO!  It's not going to happen.  You don't ignore a woman for seven years and then say, oh...I want you now.  

NO!!  

He was screaming that we need more money.  He's telling me that he doesn't want me to work.  He's saying that he won't get a second job.  

He's got to go!

How do I work when he sends his sister, cousin or friends in to harass me?  How do I work when he has both of the cars?



I thought we were supposed to be separated.  For seven years, that's what the man said....we are getting a divorce.  Actually, he started saying that in 2000 after his mother started lying about me.  He didn't start acting like he meant it until 2006.

In April of 2006, he called me Mrs. [old boyfriend's name ...which is creepier now knowing he asked his cousin to stalk this guy].  Nothing says," lady....go away and get married so I don't have to pay you alimony" more than calling me by an old flame's last name.

Now, he's claiming that he's doing stuff to force me to stay here so he can have a second chance at a relationship with me.

He wants a second chance?

Then why rage at me?

There is no hope.

Stick a fork in me.

I'm done!  

He did give me the gift of explaining more of the stalking to me.  I need to get a restraining order against HIM! 

How in the heck do you talk to a narcissist?    Therapy talk doesn't work in family situations.  

It doesn't.  

They'll go back on any promises.  

The lies are insane.  

He said that he left the lights on his car overnight and it wouldn't start, so he did the right thing by me and left my van alone.  He stayed home from work and risked his job so I could have my car.  

I owe him a big thank you, he said.  That act proves that he's kind-hearted, he said.  I am just a thoughtless bitch because I don't appreciate what he does for me.  

So, I asked him why he didn't use the jumper cables?  

He changed the subject.  

He's not going to be able to live with me anymore.  

Nope....

If he doesn't want to pay alimony, he's got to quit interfering in my ability to hold a job.  

I wish he could see beyond today.  

Love ya, 

S. 

Edit 9:39 p.m. - Oh, Lordy, now, he's claiming that he's been charming all day.  I did him a disservice by NOT planning a rocking Father's Day party for him.

I actually tried.

I ordered his favorite book from a store that later was in a fire zone for a few days.  That book may never come.

I couldn't use my car to pick up the customized gift I had done for him.

The kids would not cooperate with the cards and other gifts.

By the time he was done raging at me, I was too tired to care anymore.        

I asked him to help me come up with a parenting plan, so I can figure out when to be here.

I told him that if he can tell me when he wants use of the house, I'll be sure to be out of here.

He walked off.

This is a game.

Who in their right mind plays games with women?

90 days to go.

I am thankful he signed the papers.

He wants to raid the 401K again.  If I don't let him, I'll never get my van back.

Damn, that hearing can't come fast enough.

I've done this for years.

I can do this a little longer.

Maybe....

I hope.

One of the PIs gave me an idea for starting a business off the grid.  I'll report the income but I have to be able to hide from my ex and his stalking sister if I expect to earn money without harassment.

I'm going to investigate it.  If it works, that PI is getting one heck of a fruit basket and testimonial.




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