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End Game

Today I am thankful that I've got a BINGO! 
Yep! 
I know what is going on!!
I get it!!
I get it!!
I know what my ex is doing!!! 
He's hiding assets!! 
He's been doing that since 2007! 
Yeah....his income is down since he spent the day with his family at a funeral and came home and called me the ex. 
I know why he's controlling me with money. 
We are down $30,000+ in the 401K accounts.
The $17,000 savings account went missing. 
He won't show me the paperwork to his new 401K, which he estimated verbally had $5,000 in it.
He won't show me proof that a third 401K and the savings account were closed out.  I have no clue where the money went. 
My ex is hiding assets!
This is why he can sign a document promising me the house and $26,000 of the $34,000 in one 401K account.  He wants to keep the $5,000 401K, too. 
On the surface, it looks like he's leaving me almost everything. 
He's not. 
If we settle, he can run around looking like a great guy and a gentleman. 
I'll settle for that. 
If I can work without being stalked, it's worth it to me. 
I'll make up the money in a decade.
So, he's in a hurry to settle so neither I nor the courts find the missing money. 
I like this development. 
I may just take him up on his offer. 
Love ya,
S. 


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