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More Threats and Documentation

Today I am thankful for a place to document the threats. 
 
 
I'm trying to file for a divorce. 

He claimed he seized the engine of his car on Friday.  He wants mine.  I used student loan money to buy it.  I'll be paying on it until I am 65. 

He can have it if it means he'll go away and leave me alone.
 
 I told him that I intended to take the bus to file the paperwork once he gives me the information about the missing bank accounts. 

He can have my car.  He can have whatever he wants.  I want out.

I asked him when would be the most convenient time for me to move out of the house. 
 
He started to rage. 
 
He said that without me he has nothing to live for.  He told me that doesn't care.  He says this all the time, though. 
 
Then he threatened to drive to his mother's house and shoot his mother and his sister. 
 
I don't know if I should call the police or not. 
 
The last time this happened, they didn't do anything. 
 
 
I did ensure that there are no guns in this house. 
 
There are no guns in my car. 
 
I'll make sure my pepper spray, perfume, and baseball bat are gone, too.   
 
Do I should hide the keys to my vehicle?  He needs it for work but he works in the same area his mother lives in! 
 
Is this an empty threat?   
 
This is why I put things off. 
 
He threatens to kill himself or others the moment I file. 
 
I am shaking.  I am terrified.  I am livid. 
 
Who do I ask? 
 
He has done this before.  In the past, he has threatened to kill his mother before stealing my car and driving to her house and rage at her.  I have called the police and they told me to call his mother.  She will refuse to answer the phone. 
 
I can't do anything to stop it! 
 
I wish I knew who to ask and what to do. 
 
There goes Vegas.  I can't possibly leave the city under these circumstances to go to any convention.  I don't want him to kill anybody. 
 
Why do people cause so much trouble? 
 
Why? 
 
Love ya,
 
S. 

Edit an hour later:  I couldn't help it.  I called the Sheriff in the county his mother lives in. 

I reported everything, so they could keep an eye on his mom.  

At this point, I don't know when a man is blowing off steam or making actual threats. 

I can't deal with this. 

Edit 90 minutes later:  Well, that was interesting.  I spoke to my mother-in-law's Sheriff. 

He wanted to know why I still lived with my ex.  I need a job to afford moving out. 

He wanted to know why I don't have a job.  I'm being stalked by my ex's sister who was one of the people my ex threatened to shoot.  The stalking cost me my job.

He wanted to know why they are stalking me.  Well, I don't know.  It started years ago when they didn't want me to go to college.  His mother, aunt, cousin and uncle would call me incessently to demand that I drop out.  When that didn't happen, his sister started to stalk me on campus. 

My ex recently admitted to me that he lied to his mother and claimed I wouldn't let him go to school.  That was weird because I helped him get the funding to pay for his BA and helped him with his homework. 

I heard he Sheriff  say... "I see."

He wanted to know why I haven't filed for a restraining order against my ex, his mother, and his sister. 

I don't know who is behind the stalking. 

Well...it appears obvious that my ex is acting and raging.  He doesn't mean it at all.   None of my in-laws are going to get hurt.  I can rest easy and sleep well. 

He told me to keep the guns out of the house for my safety. 

He's one sharp cookie! 

That's exactly what the local police say.

No one has ever asked me why my in-laws were stalking me before.  I never thought to correlate it with the fact that my ex had been lying about me all these years.  He is the reason for the stalking!  He is my worst enemy!

I think I had more realizations in that three minute phone conversation that I had in twenty years of therapy!  This guy is GOOD!

The Sheriff also said that my local police department probably knows my ex is a bad apple and not to worry about saying anything.  He is sure that my mother-in-law and sister-in-law are not in any danger. 

I need to report any threats or further harassment to my police department though.  

Interesting....

They must see this alot.

It makes sense, I guess.  My world falls apart everytime I get the divorce paperwork notorized.  I think I'm doing the right thing by putting it off to ease the crisis of the day.  My ex wins because he succeeds in keeping me here.

Today, I conceeded defeat and gave him everything he wanted.  There is nothing to fight over, so I can move. 

He expects me to stay. 

I don't have to.

That sent him into a rage. 

Could this be why he had to resort to threats?  

Wow....



 
 
 


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