Today I am thankful for identifying facial expressions of psychopaths: It will help me avoid hanging out with them in the future.
Check out frame 4:48.
Check out frame 4:48.
This is the look in Steve's profile picture.
My therapist buddies on Facebook told me that he looked insane and pleaded with me to dump him. None of them were able to identify why. They just said things like "he looks crazy", "he looks insane", "he's not very nice", "he's rude", and "don't settle."
Everything was vague. I hate vague.
Steve's criticisms of me were often vague.
This video describes the conversations we would have every each break-up. We broke up every three weeks.
It is weird but I have read stories about people who dated sociopaths that would play games and break up with you every three weeks only to come back and plead to return to the relationship.
They like to play games with people to dominate them or study their reactions.
They would never apologize.
They would look for other women during the course of the relationship.
Steve liked to play games on me during our relationship, often telling me how he got the ideas for them. They were hurtful.
Steve never apologized.
He would point out all the other women he thought were interested in him.
It's interesting. He would use pity to get attention. He'd lie about me on Facebook to get attention from other women. He'd claim I did all of those things to him that he did to me. He made me look like a liar. He told other people that I was an abusive sociopath.
*****
Yes, I am dealing with a group of narcissists (my ex-husband's family). I am dealing with the phone harassment, cyber-harassment, stalking, property damage and that kid of thing. I think my former sister-in-law is a psychopath. I know that the lies originated from my ex-husband. His mother and sister twist them into some insane stories and then send them shooting back through my community.
My ex-husband and his sister are also incredibly obese. I think people take pity on them and give them both a certain amount of credibility due to their health. I am still angry that my ex uses his weight to get out of roommate help. Things in the house are broken or need put away. He can't help me because he's so fat. It's upsetting. I'm going to have to have the drywall replaced due to water damage that occurred the weekend that I went camping with Steve. I am seriously thinking about getting the house ready to sell. I don't know.
I do deal with her smear campaign to this very day. I haven't seen her stalking since last November (although I did have a scare at the supermarket yesterday). Michael doesn't seem to be lying about me anymore. I am getting friend requests on Facebook from his friends. They seem to be parroting nice things that he says. I don't know....
Dealing with a group of enmeshed narcissists make dealing with Steve seem like a picnic in the park. The problem, though, is that I have to use a hammer to deal with my ex's family. I have to go all out and threaten legal tools to get them to back off. Steve is akin to a fly on the wall. I am used to using hammers on flies. Steve is putting himself in danger messing around with me.
He doesn't understand what I am going through.
He doesn't believe that I am being stalked.
By extension of that, he doesn't understand the safety mechanisms that I have employed to thwart the stalking.
I do have a private investigator watching my home because of my in-laws.
Steve hasn't been here.
That's a good thing.
He's liable to get arrested or injured if I am not here.
******
This is a good video explain how psychopaths hook their victims.
I am trying to find a way out of this. Steve's antics slow me down. They don't help. It just adds one more fly to the mix.
I don't think Michael is a psychopath. I think he is a narcissist of the borderline variety. If I am a "good woman" and does what he wants, the stalking will stop.
I don't want to do that. He has put me between a rock and a hard place with his financial games and inability to honor our divorce agreement.
I did tell him that if he wants me to pledge to stay with him, he has to move out of the state with me. I want to get away from his stalking family.
He's not done that.
He still hasn't had his surgery, either. I'm beginning to wonder if that was a rouse to get him to stay.
I am realizing that narcissists like to waste other people's time. It is a form of control. Michael was supposed to move out of the house over a year ago.
He's wasted another year of my life.
The problem with Steve is that he created so much havoc, I feel like I have to let Michael stay in order to keep Steve at bay.
In fact, it was Michael who alerted me to those emails.
Maybe him stalking me isn't such a bad thing after all.
******
After Halloween Scare:
I'm going to sign off now. I just spit out a tootsie roll from the Halloween candy that I bought. It tasted like acetone. I'm incredibly happy that the neighbor kids wanted chocolate candy bars and glow bracelets; no one wanted the tootsie rolls. I may have to send a note to the manufacturer. That is scary!!
Edit: I found out what was in the tootsie rolls. The kids had put the glow bracelets on top of them. After 24 hours the bracelets began to leak and soaked through the seam in the tootsie roll wrappers.
Thank goodness the bracelets are non-toxic!!
My therapist buddies on Facebook told me that he looked insane and pleaded with me to dump him. None of them were able to identify why. They just said things like "he looks crazy", "he looks insane", "he's not very nice", "he's rude", and "don't settle."
Everything was vague. I hate vague.
Steve's criticisms of me were often vague.
This video describes the conversations we would have every each break-up. We broke up every three weeks.
It is weird but I have read stories about people who dated sociopaths that would play games and break up with you every three weeks only to come back and plead to return to the relationship.
They like to play games with people to dominate them or study their reactions.
They would never apologize.
They would look for other women during the course of the relationship.
Steve liked to play games on me during our relationship, often telling me how he got the ideas for them. They were hurtful.
Steve never apologized.
He would point out all the other women he thought were interested in him.
It's interesting. He would use pity to get attention. He'd lie about me on Facebook to get attention from other women. He'd claim I did all of those things to him that he did to me. He made me look like a liar. He told other people that I was an abusive sociopath.
*****
Yes, I am dealing with a group of narcissists (my ex-husband's family). I am dealing with the phone harassment, cyber-harassment, stalking, property damage and that kid of thing. I think my former sister-in-law is a psychopath. I know that the lies originated from my ex-husband. His mother and sister twist them into some insane stories and then send them shooting back through my community.
My ex-husband and his sister are also incredibly obese. I think people take pity on them and give them both a certain amount of credibility due to their health. I am still angry that my ex uses his weight to get out of roommate help. Things in the house are broken or need put away. He can't help me because he's so fat. It's upsetting. I'm going to have to have the drywall replaced due to water damage that occurred the weekend that I went camping with Steve. I am seriously thinking about getting the house ready to sell. I don't know.
I do deal with her smear campaign to this very day. I haven't seen her stalking since last November (although I did have a scare at the supermarket yesterday). Michael doesn't seem to be lying about me anymore. I am getting friend requests on Facebook from his friends. They seem to be parroting nice things that he says. I don't know....
Dealing with a group of enmeshed narcissists make dealing with Steve seem like a picnic in the park. The problem, though, is that I have to use a hammer to deal with my ex's family. I have to go all out and threaten legal tools to get them to back off. Steve is akin to a fly on the wall. I am used to using hammers on flies. Steve is putting himself in danger messing around with me.
He doesn't understand what I am going through.
He doesn't believe that I am being stalked.
By extension of that, he doesn't understand the safety mechanisms that I have employed to thwart the stalking.
I do have a private investigator watching my home because of my in-laws.
Steve hasn't been here.
That's a good thing.
He's liable to get arrested or injured if I am not here.
******
This is a good video explain how psychopaths hook their victims.
I am trying to find a way out of this. Steve's antics slow me down. They don't help. It just adds one more fly to the mix.
I don't think Michael is a psychopath. I think he is a narcissist of the borderline variety. If I am a "good woman" and does what he wants, the stalking will stop.
I don't want to do that. He has put me between a rock and a hard place with his financial games and inability to honor our divorce agreement.
I did tell him that if he wants me to pledge to stay with him, he has to move out of the state with me. I want to get away from his stalking family.
He's not done that.
He still hasn't had his surgery, either. I'm beginning to wonder if that was a rouse to get him to stay.
I am realizing that narcissists like to waste other people's time. It is a form of control. Michael was supposed to move out of the house over a year ago.
He's wasted another year of my life.
The problem with Steve is that he created so much havoc, I feel like I have to let Michael stay in order to keep Steve at bay.
In fact, it was Michael who alerted me to those emails.
Maybe him stalking me isn't such a bad thing after all.
******
After Halloween Scare:
I'm going to sign off now. I just spit out a tootsie roll from the Halloween candy that I bought. It tasted like acetone. I'm incredibly happy that the neighbor kids wanted chocolate candy bars and glow bracelets; no one wanted the tootsie rolls. I may have to send a note to the manufacturer. That is scary!!
Edit: I found out what was in the tootsie rolls. The kids had put the glow bracelets on top of them. After 24 hours the bracelets began to leak and soaked through the seam in the tootsie roll wrappers.
Thank goodness the bracelets are non-toxic!!