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Today I am thankful that three of my four exes are Scorpios.


So....I received a bizarre text message while I was at work. 

It read:


"[My current name], a former fling wants to reconnect with you on Rekindle.  Download the app and discover who...."

First, three of my four exes have my current cell phone number.   The guy who tried to kill me has his wife call me at home in those rare moments he needs something (like tax records).  I haven't heard from her in years.  The last time I spoke to her she wanted to know about domestic violence shelters.  I pray for her a lot. 

Secondly, three of my four exes actually know how I spell my name.   Steve does not know that I changed my name in 1992 after the stalking began.  He's the only one who spells it the new way.

Finally, three of my four exes are friends on my social networking accounts.  I had to block Steve when he became obnoxious. 
I do have coffee or tea with most of them.  I was with Thomas in '86-87.  We last had coffee in 2011.  He's not shy about calling me.  I avoid Ross but his wife knows she is welcome to call anytime.  We were together between '88-'91.  I was with Michael since January '92.  We divorced earlier this year after a long separation but he still hangs around.  Steve and I dated since October of last year but we spent 50% of that time broken up.  I thought he was my friend but....I guess not.  I met him in April of 2011.

That's pretty much it.  I did date one guy in the middle.  His name was Sampson but I don't think it went very far.  I loved him dearly.  I know he loved me but we didn't have a lot in common.  He was also a Scorpio.  He is not shy about contacting me.  He's close to my sister, so he'll typically leave messages for me with her.
 


Michael denied sending the invite but jumped on the thought of reconnecting.   I am considering sending birthday cards to two of the other three.  I won't send a birthday card to the guy that tried to kill me.  I'm friends with his daughter, so I'll just do what I usually do.  I'll buy her something in place of what I would normally buy him. 
IF I send one to the mean, rude, unapologetic person- he'll have to wait until August.  I don't think I'll ever be comfortable with him.  He was really mean.  As much as I love him, the pain of dealing with his emotional abuse outweighs the pain of being away from him.  I do not feel that I have a choice.  I have to stay away.  I don't think it can be fixed...I don't.  It's sad. 

*****

I love him but I am at peace. 

When I go through my blog and see all the hell Steve put me through, all the games he played, and all the names he called me - I realize how lucky I am that we are not a couple anymore. 

I offered to pay for relationship coaching. 

He declined. 

If it can't be fixed, I don't want to waste my time. I don't have the energy to put up with it anymore. 

I am at peace. 

I can look at all the eye candy that surrounds me. 

Life is good. 

Love,

S.





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