Today I am thankful for projection.
If my stalker ex-husband tells me that Steve is running around claiming that I disrespect him one more time, I'm going to get out my voodoo dolls. I'm gonna get one for each of them just to let off some steam. Seriously....
Maybe one should clear the air? Okay....let me start.
Here are examples of the respect I was getting from Steve during his email barrage.
First Email:
I'm experiencing an incredible amount of anger right now. I'm making the diagnosis that you think your ideas are much more important than mine. I don't know why that would be, they don't seem to have as much intellectual backing as mine. I think it's rather apropos that I simply made the choice to study economics from a privately funded group and got a damn fine education FOR FREE, and I'm talking to someone who still thinks the government school system can be fixed via political action. And you keep calling my shit THEORY. Well it isn't theory lady! I practiced what I preach and I can guarantee I know my shit much better than you do! That means my way is much better than your way. I proved it WITH ACTION! You don't know your shit, I do. My education system is better. Simply choosing to get my education from a private source was better than WHATEVER the hell you've been doing to satisfy your needs for education. You don't even know the difference between proof and theory.
I would be embarrassed to display such a lack of understanding in a public forum. You're going to protect the image of your socialist friends? Why don't you protect yours some?You're the "libertarian" who supports the school lunch entitlement program? How's that going to rank in libertarian history books? As a fake fraud politician. That's how!
YOU'RE GOING IN THE WRONG DIRECTION!
You are lacking so much in respect, you couldn't give me an ounce even if I deserved it. You don't have any to give, because you don't choose it for yourself. How are you going to protect your socialist friend's reputation if THEY ARE CHOOSING to disseminate disreputable ideas? There is nothing you can do if they don't choose it for themselves. There's nothing I can do if you don't choose it for your self. If you want to contribute to how respectable people are, there's only one person you can do that for. YOU. When you convince yourself to BE respectable, then perhaps you will have a chance at convincing your socialist friends to be respectable also. You can't patch over their shit, put a pretty spin on it, and seriously consider that REAL WORK. Real accomplishment. Yay, you made crap look good... and me like crap. Have some respect for yourself.
Author's Note: I had enough self-respect to bail out of the relationship after the 3rd such email. At least six more followed. I stopped reading them after the fourth one.
I have no idea where this rant was born. I was playing nice with my Occupy friends so they'd help overturn an expensive corporate welfare law.
Overturning that law would help people NOW!
I think people are realizing that we are stepping towards totalitarianism. Political parties and labels don't matter anymore. Individual people who are willing to step up and take action will. Taking action does not mean arguing about absurdities on Facebook. It means doing public information requests, giving speeches, running for office and/or boards, suing, and doing whatever it takes to get the bad laws off of the books.
Real action works. Talk...not so much...unless it is part of a strategy.
I don't think that is an appropriate use of non-violent communication. Worse, at that moment I was dealing with a personal crisis. I tried to explain it to Steve but he wanted to bitch about politics and his lack of respect.
My Grandfather had a saying with regard to relationships: "You can be happy or you can be right."
He and grandmother were married 50 years. She died shortly after that anniversary.
In relationships, respect has to go both ways. It's not a one way street.
Now, it is time for me to go into my recording studio so I don't have to hear anymore about Steve's posts from my ex-husband.
I am formulating new ideas about how to get out of here but nothing solid yet.
There is something else, Steve kept going on and on about being offended by the Freudian interpretation of frogs in Fairy Tales. If he sees this, he can go to Amazon.com to understand that this is not a theory that I made up to call him a frog. If I wanted to call him a frog, I'd have just called him a frog....sigh...
Love ya,
S.
P.S. I did request that Steve never call me lady. He objected, calling it a demand.
When I was seventeen, I was raped by a guy who called me "lady" as he threw me down on a floor. I remember doing whatever I could to scratch up his face and kick him off of me.
Calling me "lady" is the death knell of any relationship. I tried to warn Steve but I never got the chance.
Oh, I got the last laugh with this rapist dude. I spread a rumor that I was pregnant and his wife and girlfriend both called me. I told them what he said and that he called me a certain name (which belonged to his wife). He was divorced soon after.
I saw him in a bar around 2009. He stared. I ignored him. I never forgot that face nor did I forget that voice. He looked like hell. I'm pretty sure karma got the best of him.
Play nice or live in pain. It's up to you.