Patterns of Deceit

Today I am thankful for patterns of deceit.

I'm trying to figure out how to nail my ex to a tree for harassing me like he does.

I'm running around like crazy, trying to clean up after my ex.

I'm busy.

I noticed that every time I have a meeting, date, seminar or anything planned with my friend -

my ex's vehicle breaks down in some obscure place and he wants my car or wants me to drop what I'm doing to take care of his responsibilities to our children.

The same thing happens with job interviews, too. His car will disappear and he'll want mine.

His car broke down two weeks ago. I don't remember what was wrong with it but he claimed it broke down.

It broke down again yesterday.

When do I stop being responsible for my ex's bullshit?

I am also realizing the taxing issue is a red herring. He wants me to put off the divorce so we can file joint taxes for this tax year.

Every year, he has a new excuse to put it off. I am to the point of making him eat the $5,000 tax rebate.

I'm not sure I care anymore....unless he wants to get his stalking sister arrested, or prove to me that it isn't him, I don't know if I want to cooperate with him.

I am waiting to get a job because I do NOT want him (or his stalking family) to know where I work. If he does the taxes, he'll know!!!

This is stupid.

Every man ought to know that when a woman gets mad at him, he's toast.

I'm finally seething to the point that I am shaking.

He's gonna be one burnt marshmallow by the time I get done lighting a fire under his ass.

Hell hath no fury like an angry redhead.

Watch out!!!

I am NOT happy.

Love ya,

S.

Stalker Proxy Phone Calls

What kind of songs do narcissistic stalkers sing? I imagine they sing songs like this. I am grateful now that I understand why the stalker has people call but wish they'd listen when I ask them not to call again. I probably should document this somewhere. My ex was talking to an old friend of mine from high school on a daily basis. She is his cousin. I had to quit talking to her when she'd ask me to plan parties and then refuse to give me the guest list saying that the attendees would only be me, her, my stalker Shannon, and my NPD mother-in-law. She wanted me to plan interventions. This happened with a baby shower. It also happened with a wedding. The in-laws put together a fake wedding trying to host an intervention to shame me and my ex into doing things for them (like quit school and give them my car). I had to cut this so-called friend off over that in 2004....

The Love Gods Have a Sense of Humor

Today I am thankful about the ever-changeable, ever-humorous universe. It is said that 'in life, the only constant is change.' Ah, this is a true tidbit, isn't it? I recently vowed NOT to date until Michael officially moves out of the house. I also vowed NOT to be close to him unless he signs up for FOO (Family of Origin) and Relationship counseling. I've been with the man nearly a quarter of a century, he's not going to go to therapy to have a relationship with me. He plays games with money, divorce agreements, custody arrangements, transportation, and all sorts of things to keep me stuck here. It's nothing money and a lawyer can't solve. ***** They say that dysfunctional people have three weapons that they use to keep people under their thumb. The acronym is FOG. Yes, they are FOG machines. What does FOG stand for? F ear O bligation -and- G uilt Yes, there is fear. Fear that he won't honor hi...

Personality Theory

Today I am thankful for personality theory. I can't say that I buy into it very much. People change over the course of their lives. Healthy people grow. Unhealthy people either stay static or regress. So what one tests today may change tomorrow. I do believe that personality theories (even ancient ones like astrology) create self-fulfilling prophecies. If people buy into it, it gives a lot of insight into their characters, needs, and behaviors. I've spent most of my adult life studying personality theories. From Eric Fromm's theory's about authoritian -vs- mature personalities and how authoritians fear power while mature people revel in it to Jung's introvert -vs- extrovert theory. A major one of interest to me is an offshoot of Jung, it is the MBTI type inventory. When I'm happy, I'm a textbook INFJ. When I'm pissed off and wanting to strangle my ex, I act like a ESTP. My ex is a ESTP a...

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