New Volunteer Job

Today I am thankful for something to do.

I spoke to my friend who used to manage the homeless mission.

I now have a volunteer job. I babysit the children of homeless women on the days kids are not in school. My teenager will accompany me so she can get some volunteer experience to put on her college applications.

I start next week.

I guess something good came from Steve's game. I wouldn't have spoken to my friend if Steve's "girlfriend" hadn't called me pretending to be homeless.

I'm not sure she's his girlfriend -but- I am pretty sure he put her up to calling me. It's bizarre that the day she mentioned that he sent her rude and upsetting messages on Facebook and that she wanted me to look at his profile  - was the very day he harassed me on Facebook.

I think she was trying to get me to unblock his profile by asking me to look for her naked pictures on his page. When that didn't work, I believe that he posted a very nasty message to my page in the hopes I would unblock him and respond privately. I didn't do either. I blocked him for my sanity.

It's hard to believe those events were unrelated because they took place within a span of two hours.

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I need to do less with Facebook. I am now on a Facebookish website specifically designed for artists.  I am also on websites similar to Facebook for my political aspirations. I think I am tired of dealing with jerks on Facebook.

As far as Steve, I'm not bitter. I'm thankful.

I also have another interview tomorrow morning. It is another social service job. I'm hopeful something will pan out soon.

Life is good.

Love ya,

S.

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