Today I am thankful for The Bible.
It is helping me get over my guilt for cutting people off.
I'm cutting out a lot of people.
This verse helps the most.
Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them. (Titus 3:10 )
But know this: Difficult times will come in the last days. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, without love for what is good, traitors, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, holding to the form of godliness but denying its power. Avoid these people! (2 TIM. 3:1-5)
I'll add more as time allows.
That Zeus is one wise father.
*****
I'm on a cutting off spree.
I caught my daughter's 5th grade teacher being nasty. I thought all was well but I went to a parent teacher conference. Basically, the teacher said that she ignores children who report bullying. Children who report bullying tend to exaggerate she said. Then she wondered why my daughter stopped talking to her.
Sigh...
I saw how she treated my daughter. I heard my daughter try to explain that she wanted to be friends with everyone.
This put me in mind of my consistent forgiveness of Steve and Michael.
This put me in mind of my 24 year old daughter and her abusive boyfriend getting her arrested.
I teach my children to put up with the crap other people dish out.
I saw how I am allowing my kids to soak in abuse.
I had enough.
I was quiet.
I was cordial.
The Principal is not very honest. She will promise to do things and fail to follow through.
I've already called the superintendent to inquire about homeschooling for the next six months.
That's going to be fun to explain to my friends on the school board. I might just mention that I'm thinking about pushing vouchers. It'll be fun to watch them squirm.
*****
My ex promised to update our divorce agreement to allow me to homeschool.
Maybe I'll explain later. What I saw in the classroom was pretty bad, too.
I've asked the district for the statistics on expulsion and criminal rates of this school. I'm thinking that this is a problem school. I want verification.
I may wind up home schooling for the remainder of the year.
I don't want to do that.
I can't handle seeing my kids abused.
I think she is being singled out (based on some of the things the kids wrote on the classroom bulletin board). I think my daughter is taking the role of victim. If I remove her from the situation and get her involved in other learning activities with other children, maybe she can reclaim her personal power before middle school.
This is probably happening to other kids, too.
*****
It seems that I am beginning to blame the government. I mean, they arrested my eldest because some guy said she grabbed his hoodie. They obviously didn't listen to the 911 call where I explain she was barricaded in a room without means of escape. She got out when the hoodlum was told that I called the cops. He threw his keys at her and left with his drugs.
I can't believe they didn't drug test him.
Oh, and that police report the cop submitted the day my daughter was arrested.....oh my goodness. I'll wait to share that one. Internal affairs is going to have a field day with that cop. What innocent person tells a cop 'I chose not to break the law..... today.'
That's what the officer wrote. The officer admitted that Jose is an abuser....just not that day.
Yikes.. He also wrote that my daughter married him when she was 16. Nope....not in this state.
That's okay....the truth will come out.
*****
I don't trust the government.
I trust them less now. I used to live in the city where my daughter was arrested.
Maybe I should tell you the story about Lakewood City Hall.
The year was 1995. An elderly man rang my doorbell. He explained that he was a farmer and that the city was trying to annex his land for their city building. He wanted to live the rest of his life on the property that he inherited from his parents who inherited from their parents.
He promised to will his land to the city upon his death.
He asked me to sign a petition. I did. I promised to lead a group to deal with the mayor. He told me no. He said that he'd be happy if the city would let him live there until his death.
He must have died soon after.
The police station sits on his old farm. I had to go down there for a copy of my 911 call.
I don't know what to do.
I have done some research on the subject. Many men are swapping techniques for getting their victims abused in that mandated 36 week course.
Oh....so....what do we do? Audit the course?
Or do we drop the mandatory arrest laws?
The cop refused to take her report because he said that he'd have to arrest her if her boyfriend's shirt was ripped. He said that it didn't matter if the shirt ripped when she was pushed, backwards, towards the stairs. No one could prove she was pushed. They could prove that the shirt was ripped.
Then they came back to arrest her after taking his report.
So.....I don't know....do we need a law like they have in Alabama? Do we need to make it unlawful for a cop to threaten to arrest someone in an effort to discourage them from making a domestic violence report?
What do I do?
This is an injustice.
It is continually occurring.
Do heads roll? Do I call my activist buddies? Do I call my friends who work with battered women? I ran against a famous victim's advocate a couple of years ago, do I call her?
Do I simply sit at a city meeting with my voodoo dolls?
(The above is obnoxious as heck because it scares the heck out of religious people.)
Do I write articles?
Do I do more qualitative research describing the experience of being arrested as a victim of domestic violence and seeing a victim's advocate fawn over the guy who tried to push you down a flight of stairs and lied about it?
Do I ask for video footage of the hearing? My daughter said that Jose harassed her when the victim's advocate left. My question is this....if Jose is a victim of domestic violence, why are they leaving him alone with his alleged perpetrator?
Do I contact the ACLU?
Do I contact the politicians I know who fight for Domestic Violence victims?
Do I do what I can to yank funding for this department?
Do I fight against any ballot initiative where they are asking for more money?
Do I hire a lawyer to sue for false arrest damages?
What do I do?
I don't know.
If something strikes me as necessary, I'll do it.
Maybe it'll be a combination of the above.
*****
I think I must remove my children from the reach of authoritarians right now. The school and the police department are engaging in victim blaming. It's best to keep my kids out of their reach. It's best to demonstrate how to identify abusive jerks and cut them off for good, too.
Then.....I'll ponder how to handle the injustice.
There is a way.
Love ya,
S.
That Zeus is one wise father.
*****
I'm on a cutting off spree.
I caught my daughter's 5th grade teacher being nasty. I thought all was well but I went to a parent teacher conference. Basically, the teacher said that she ignores children who report bullying. Children who report bullying tend to exaggerate she said. Then she wondered why my daughter stopped talking to her.
Sigh...
I saw how she treated my daughter. I heard my daughter try to explain that she wanted to be friends with everyone.
This put me in mind of my consistent forgiveness of Steve and Michael.
This put me in mind of my 24 year old daughter and her abusive boyfriend getting her arrested.
I teach my children to put up with the crap other people dish out.
I saw how I am allowing my kids to soak in abuse.
I had enough.
I was quiet.
I was cordial.
The Principal is not very honest. She will promise to do things and fail to follow through.
I've already called the superintendent to inquire about homeschooling for the next six months.
That's going to be fun to explain to my friends on the school board. I might just mention that I'm thinking about pushing vouchers. It'll be fun to watch them squirm.
*****
My ex promised to update our divorce agreement to allow me to homeschool.
Maybe I'll explain later. What I saw in the classroom was pretty bad, too.
I've asked the district for the statistics on expulsion and criminal rates of this school. I'm thinking that this is a problem school. I want verification.
I may wind up home schooling for the remainder of the year.
I don't want to do that.
I can't handle seeing my kids abused.
I think she is being singled out (based on some of the things the kids wrote on the classroom bulletin board). I think my daughter is taking the role of victim. If I remove her from the situation and get her involved in other learning activities with other children, maybe she can reclaim her personal power before middle school.
This is probably happening to other kids, too.
*****
It seems that I am beginning to blame the government. I mean, they arrested my eldest because some guy said she grabbed his hoodie. They obviously didn't listen to the 911 call where I explain she was barricaded in a room without means of escape. She got out when the hoodlum was told that I called the cops. He threw his keys at her and left with his drugs.
I can't believe they didn't drug test him.
Oh, and that police report the cop submitted the day my daughter was arrested.....oh my goodness. I'll wait to share that one. Internal affairs is going to have a field day with that cop. What innocent person tells a cop 'I chose not to break the law..... today.'
That's what the officer wrote. The officer admitted that Jose is an abuser....just not that day.
Yikes.. He also wrote that my daughter married him when she was 16. Nope....not in this state.
That's okay....the truth will come out.
*****
I don't trust the government.
I trust them less now. I used to live in the city where my daughter was arrested.
Maybe I should tell you the story about Lakewood City Hall.
The year was 1995. An elderly man rang my doorbell. He explained that he was a farmer and that the city was trying to annex his land for their city building. He wanted to live the rest of his life on the property that he inherited from his parents who inherited from their parents.
He promised to will his land to the city upon his death.
He asked me to sign a petition. I did. I promised to lead a group to deal with the mayor. He told me no. He said that he'd be happy if the city would let him live there until his death.
He must have died soon after.
The police station sits on his old farm. I had to go down there for a copy of my 911 call.
I don't know what to do.
I have done some research on the subject. Many men are swapping techniques for getting their victims abused in that mandated 36 week course.
Oh....so....what do we do? Audit the course?
Or do we drop the mandatory arrest laws?
The cop refused to take her report because he said that he'd have to arrest her if her boyfriend's shirt was ripped. He said that it didn't matter if the shirt ripped when she was pushed, backwards, towards the stairs. No one could prove she was pushed. They could prove that the shirt was ripped.
Then they came back to arrest her after taking his report.
So.....I don't know....do we need a law like they have in Alabama? Do we need to make it unlawful for a cop to threaten to arrest someone in an effort to discourage them from making a domestic violence report?
What do I do?
This is an injustice.
It is continually occurring.
Do heads roll? Do I call my activist buddies? Do I call my friends who work with battered women? I ran against a famous victim's advocate a couple of years ago, do I call her?
Do I simply sit at a city meeting with my voodoo dolls?
(The above is obnoxious as heck because it scares the heck out of religious people.)
Do I write articles?
Do I do more qualitative research describing the experience of being arrested as a victim of domestic violence and seeing a victim's advocate fawn over the guy who tried to push you down a flight of stairs and lied about it?
Do I ask for video footage of the hearing? My daughter said that Jose harassed her when the victim's advocate left. My question is this....if Jose is a victim of domestic violence, why are they leaving him alone with his alleged perpetrator?
Do I contact the ACLU?
Do I contact the politicians I know who fight for Domestic Violence victims?
Do I do what I can to yank funding for this department?
Do I fight against any ballot initiative where they are asking for more money?
Do I hire a lawyer to sue for false arrest damages?
What do I do?
I don't know.
If something strikes me as necessary, I'll do it.
Maybe it'll be a combination of the above.
*****
I think I must remove my children from the reach of authoritarians right now. The school and the police department are engaging in victim blaming. It's best to keep my kids out of their reach. It's best to demonstrate how to identify abusive jerks and cut them off for good, too.
Then.....I'll ponder how to handle the injustice.
There is a way.
Love ya,
S.