Today I am thankful for new information.
I just learned that my ex-husband secretly gave his sister hundreds of dollars in cash when we lived together. Right before the smear campaign and stalking in November, 1999, he told her 'no' to a demand for cash. I had come into some money and bought a newer used car. I gave my old one to his brother, who promptly demanded my new car.
He never got it.
Shannon wanted some of that money and asked Mike for it. He told her 'no' and said it was because the mortgage payment was due. This corresponds with her threatening my neighbor with a gun and her telling him that I was stalking him. After that, the neighbor (who was alcoholic) started threatening me with a bb gun (funny) and assaulting me. My sister-in-law told me to sell the house and move.
That was the year the stalking became incredibly bad. That was the year of the constant hang up calls that traced to Shannon's home number. That was the year Shannon drove by the house several times a day, calling me on her cell phone to report what I was doing. That was the year that my mother-in-law demanded that I cook Thanksgiving dinner and not show up to partake in the meal. I should spare you my rant about how dangerous it is to have someone you hate cook you a meal. They are not the smartest people in the world.
He won't tell me how much money she wanted at the time. He may not remember. He does remember that she always asked for his checking account balance (rounding to the closest hundred). This had been going on since I met him.
I am beginning to wonder if she's the one stealing our mail. I am livid about a missing $4,000, too. I am beginning to suspect that Shannon took that.
The cops said that in-law stalking is fairly common when a spouse gives large sums of money to relatives but cuts them off due to a perception that the other spouse doesn't like it.
I never knew about this. If this is why she's harassing me, I cannot imagine why he would never say a word about it? If Shannon wants money, why mess with my ability to hold a job? Ugh....they are not the smartest people in the world.
He also said he told her that we had $1,600 of disposable monthly income. We never had that kind of cash. This is why she constantly harangued him for dough.
I'm still processing this.
Before we married, $4,000 of mine went missing. Since 2008, $79,000 of our retirement fund went missing. After our separation, $18,000 went missing ($7,000 after I was awarded the money that I have yet to see).
Is Michael still supporting his sister? Is this why she is stalking me? Is he lying? Goodness gracious, I wish I knew. This is crazy.
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Last night, I nearly had Michael convinced to move out of the house and go no contact with me. His sister is stalking me based on information he gives her. He admits to talking to his family about me. He tells me that those conversations precede the stalking events. He says innocent things and they act on it.
If he cannot help but betray me, he has to move out. This is for my safety, the safety of the kids, and his safety, too.
The cops believe that my ex-husband is putting his sister up to stalking me. If she kills me, he will be arrested. I had him convinced that the only way to keep him out of prison would be to honor the divorce decree, sign a quit claim deed, give me what was left of the money awarded to me, and go no-contact with me.
He was listening. He was processing it. He was thinking it could happen before my birthday....
Then my phone went nuts. I received fourteen texts from Steve. The sound of the phone vibrating broke the spell.
I am really livid. I almost had what I wanted. I almost had a new agreement. All I need is a signature to a quit claim deed and voila, I am FREE!!!
When a hypnotist says that she needs to finish having a conversation that could benefit you, let her finish the damn conversation!!!!
I have the worst luck in the world.
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On the bright side, I think I know a little more about what is going on. For awhile, I thought
Shannon may be deluded, schizophrenic and psychotic but now I am fairly sure she is NPD. Who but a narcissist would think they could demand a man's entire salary?
I may not have to move. Schizophrenics who don't take meds scare me. NPDs are easy to control. All one has to do is threaten their reputation.
Oh...one quick thing.
Mike said that the stalking tends to happen two weeks after they have contact with him. His cousin and sister contacted him two weeks ago, this could be why my alarm bells are ringing. I am afraid but I do not know why. I now remember having panic attacks after he told me they contacted him on Facebook a little over two weeks ago.
There is another reason, too. I found a job I wanted. The phones and Internet went dead the day after I submitted my resume. It's my fault, I was talking about my excitement and dreams of working at the local university. I figured that if I made $40,000, I could recalculate child support and sign away my rights to alimony. This would save Michael a heck of a lot of money and he could move out in style!
Oh, crap. I should have kept my fat mouth shut.
I've been scrambling trying to get the phone service put in my name. I am having trouble proving that I do not owe money on an older account. I have never had service with some of these providers, why do they think I did?
This is getting frustrating. I may wind up with MagicJack and some bizarre portable internet service until this settles down.
I'm exhausted.
If something happens to me, I thought I would share that Mike is still in contact with his family and that Shannon is pissed that he's not signing over his paychecks to her. My divorcing him will only further his inability to give her money.
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There is more. My former brother-in-law told my ex-husband about how Shannon is currently being stalked. When I heard Michael recall the story, it sounded a lot like what I've been going through. My brother-in-law said that the stalker started off with phone harassment and started collecting information by hacking online accounts. I am wondering if Shannon is playing victim but retelling her behavior in those stories. I need to batten down the hatches on my online accounts just in case.
Someone has recently unpublished one of my second amendment political Facebook pages and tried to delete the account while I was offline due to my internet being cut. It wasn't me. I changed my password and admin settings. It will NOT happen again.
I'm not sure if it was a cyber-intelligent Democrat or if Shannon hacked into my Facebook account again. Maybe Shannon is a gun hating lib-tard? Hmmmm....... I guess if I were a stalker, I wouldn't want my victim having a gun either.
I'm not sure if it was a cyber-intelligent Democrat or if Shannon hacked into my Facebook account again. Maybe Shannon is a gun hating lib-tard? Hmmmm....... I guess if I were a stalker, I wouldn't want my victim having a gun either.
A decent hacker would have harvested my Farmville crops. Just teasing....
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Oh....I got a letter from a divorce attorney I tried to retain in 2005. He owes me money. Maybe he can help me solve this issue. I'll call him Monday. Last time, I couldn't afford his services. Maybe if I do my own paperwork, he'll cut me a deal.
He's the funny lawyer who uses Valentine's Day stamps on his correspondence. I am a sucker for men who make me laugh.
I'll catch up soon.
Love ya,
S.