Life without Distractions and Dirty Games

Today I am thankful for having less distractions and man games to contend with.

It's interesting what I can actually get accomplished when I don't have to second guess myself all the time.

I turned my cell phone off.

I refuse to listen to any messages that are not from clients.

Life is good.

I am really getting a lot of things done.

I am not sitting around sulking or worrying or planning around visits with a certain man.
I am not budgeting for dates or worrying about whether or not I can volunteer over the weekend.

I am no longer worried about being stalked because I really don't have a boyfriend. I am not sure I can stand him. I feel constantly attacked and criticized. I can't deal with that. I know he is trying to help -but- I've got to help myself first.

I really do not know if it is appropriate to respond to a text from a man telling me that I cannot meet my own needs.

Oh....gawd....

uh....

dude....

um.....

I won't go there.

He was angry that I did not see him on Friday night. I was working on an exit plan. I've made progress. I am happy about that. This man and I had no concrete plans to see each other. I wanted to fix my mess.

He appears to need me to see him every Friday. I cannot meet that need and I told him so.

Then, he responded that I couldn't meet my own needs.

Okay....sure....whatever.....

Life is good.

I think I'll keep mum on the new developments for now. I am incredibly excited about them.

I do have clarity on the stalking situation now. It is my ex-husband. I just have to stay in the shadows and away from other men until he moves out.

It's all good.

Love ya,

S.

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