A Musician's Back Up Alarm System

Today I am thankful for people who understand my redneck ways.

So...

We had someone break into the garage on Friday.

I've started to push poles and chairs up against the doors to brace them and make it harder for people to get into the house.

I also put acoustic guitars in front of the objects bracing the doors so I can hear if they open.

My eldest daughter came over -

she stared at the vintage olive green Spanish guitar which sat in front of the braced door leading into the garage.

After a few minutes her face brightened up

and she laughed

and laughed.

She said I was clever.

Safety is a big deal. You've got to use every talent you have to stay safe.

I remember the voices of the two men I heard that night.

I listen for them around town each and every day.

I haven't heard those voices again.

Sigh.....

If I'm awakened in the middle of the night by a cacophony of strings, you know I'm grabbing a weapon.

My favorite weapon is hairspray....

then my baseball bat......

the gun is the last resort.

By the time I grab the gun, either the knife wielder or the three archers upstairs will have the villain down.

I have amazing girls in my home.

Love ya,

S.

Stalker Proxy Phone Calls

What kind of songs do narcissistic stalkers sing? I imagine they sing songs like this. I am grateful now that I understand why the stalker has people call but wish they'd listen when I ask them not to call again. I probably should document this somewhere. My ex was talking to an old friend of mine from high school on a daily basis. She is his cousin. I had to quit talking to her when she'd ask me to plan parties and then refuse to give me the guest list saying that the attendees would only be me, her, my stalker Shannon, and my NPD mother-in-law. She wanted me to plan interventions. This happened with a baby shower. It also happened with a wedding. The in-laws put together a fake wedding trying to host an intervention to shame me and my ex into doing things for them (like quit school and give them my car). I had to cut this so-called friend off over that in 2004....

The Love Gods Have a Sense of Humor

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Personality Theory

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