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Snowed In (with added case law)




Today I am thankful for.......

I'm not sure....yet....

let's see where we end up.


It snowed over the weekend.

I kicked the weekend off falling asleep during my ritual to Aphrodite and Eros.

I was incredibly disrespectful.

I wasn't wearing make-up.  I wasn't dressed up.

I didn't have any decent offerings.

I just fell asleep.

My Saturday morning dream consisted of a face from my past and above song playing as the soundtrack.

Not good......I had dreams of someone in a burn unit and spent most of my weekend with a hauntingly sad feeling in the back of my head.

It would seem I need to either sleep less or skip the delta dream state somehow.

Maybe I can try lucid dreaming.

The dreams are getting old.

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I spent Saturday seeing hypnosis clients and driving in the snow.  I love April snows because people have finally figured out how to drive in the snow and there are fewer close calls.

It was a heavy snow.  I couldn't shake it out of the leaves of the city owned tree in front of my house.

It's going to need to be trimmed now.

Where am I going to find the money?

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I spent today meditating and researching.

I was asked to write an article about the ways in which local governments cause homelessness.  I've done a lot of research.

Yes, it starts on the municipal level - with housing codes and restrictions.  So many shitty things....so few words.

The publication only wants a 500 word article.

How can I keep it that short?

YIKES....

People have been researching this topic since the 1980's.  I'm shocked that no one has caught on yet.

The sick part is that I've already gotten the attention of a whack job that works at the city owned mental health center.

Yeah, this person believes that 90% of homeless people are homeless due to mental illness.  [Imagine a buzzer sound].....the truth is that 20% of homeless people have a mental illness (some of that may be caused by the trauma of homelessness).

Another crazy person claims that 79% of the homeless are veterans (buzzer sound)....that figure is 8.6%.

Wanna bet they're gearing up to ask for a tax hike?

The last time the mental health organization requested a tax hike, they broke so many laws that people went to jail. 

The city needs to teach its people to research prior to opening their mouths.  If they're going to run to social media with misinformation, they may not want to name a city facility and tag me in their answers.

We all know that governments only care about increasing themselves.

It's enough to make me sick.

In fact, it has. 

I need to figure out what to do next. 

People promise to help.

They won't. 

This is why I'm meditating. 

I'm not so sure it's going to matter much in the coming months.

There is a weird feeling blowing in on the wind.

Can you feel it? 

The atmosphere is off. 

I can't put my finger on it.

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I'm still a little disgusted with what I've seen go down since I've been spending more time at home.

I'm still confused by the behavior of the cops

and concerned that the stalking is going to pick up.

The cops were harassing one set of neighbors (the bikers who rent the house directly to the east) at the request of a nasty homeowner (house directly west) who brandishes his gun at people who park in front of my house.

The bikers were parking in front of my house to keep my ex-husband's family away.  Now, they're being evicted due to the threat of fines from the city (due to shitty regulations and numerous calls by my other gun toting neighbor).

I probably would not have had to ask them to park there if the cops would have taken police reports.  They never did.  They told me that my ex was just messing with my head and to get a restraining order.   

You can't get a restraining order without a police report.

The cops also told me to buy new equipment (computers and phones) but they never investigated anything. They just blamed my ex-husband and told me to get him out of my house.  That took three years and cost me $6,400 in legal fees....AFTER THE DIVORCE WAS FINAL!. 

My ex husband got help from the city (that refused to investigate) and they are paying for his housing.  The shrink at the city owned mental health center convinced him that he's the victim. That's not good because it means he's not taking responsibility for his life.  The last time I saw him, my ex was upset because the city provided housing had bed bugs and that's my fault somehow.

Sigh....

Men who don't take responsibility for their lives and play the victim are prone to abuse (e.g. stalking).

It's like I fear the problems coming full circle.

I fear the stalking is going to pick up. 

The cops won't do anything.

In fact, they won't do anything about the gun toting neighbor who drew the line in front of my house dictating where I can park. 

The cop told me to park where I want.  Okay, so what's going to happen if I get shot?

The cop is playing code enforcement officer.  He was going next door to tell my biker neighbors that they have too many cars.  There is no law pertaining to that in Municode.  I also checked with the City Manager's office.

Who does this cop know? 

Perhaps he is a friend of the gun toting jackass or he's afraid of someone on the block.

We do have a little old lady from Austria who is really bad.  She'll bring gifts to people to try to get into their houses and threaten to call social services on the family.  Thankfully social services won't intervene without a referral from a cop.  She could be the one complaining.

The renters who were kicked out told me that she comes over all the time with diapers. 

Nosey people suck.

I just want the government to define its laws so they can be challenged.

I'm wondering if the law stating that only four unrelated persons can inhabit a structure is discriminatory in nature.  Many of these laws were put on the books to keep gay people from living together.

Maybe this law is intended to force marriage. Until very recently, same sex couples could not marry.  It may have kept two unmarried couples from living together.  The law would only pose a problem if one of those couples had children. 

I need to do more research.  I've already found case law which would invalidate any definition of family as "four or more unrelated" persons.  I guess it's up to the landlord if he wants me to challenge it.   He seems afraid of the cop. 

I'm amused by the cop. 

It's strange. Last summer, a couple of activists from a gay rights parade decorated my car. I've left the decorations alone.  

Yes, I drive the rainbow hypno-gay-pride mobile.

Maybe they did that so I wouldn't forget them. 

I think of these people each and every day. 

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I realized today that when I share invitations with people on social media....

I CAN NEVER GO TO THE EVENTS.....

I'm not sure the stalking is over.

I have to stop telling people about cool events unless I don't plan on attending.

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Social media is strange in and of itself.  I've only been on Facebook now for three weeks and I've already had enough with married guys trying to get my attention.

The problem with being female....is the horny married men intrigued by my occupation.

This is really a waste of energy for me. 

I should write a book on erotic hypnosis so guys can buy it for their wives and leave me alone.

I'm getting to the point of ignoring any man who contacts me online. 

There are far too many creeps out there. 

Maybe today I am thankful for the ability to turn of my computer.


Yeah, I'm satisfied with that one.

Love ya,

S. 

Next Day Edit:

Based on the case law I'm finding the City of Aurora is guilty of discriminating against disabled people (again)....

Hmmm.....this is interesting....disabled people cannot be singled out in zoning code.

Get a load of this....this is only one of many incidents I'm finding.....

[in] 1993, a federal district court in the case of Oxford House v. Town of Babylon, 819 F. Supp. 1179 (E.D.N.Y. 1993) concluded that the federal Fair Housing Act prevented the Town of Babylon from evicting recovering alcoholics and drug addicts from a group home based on the town’s zoning definition of family. The town alleged the house was being used in violation of the single family zoning because the residents were transient and not a family. Under the town code, a family is defined to include those related by blood, marriage or adoption, or not more than 4 unrelated individuals living in a stable, non-transient household. Oxford House accommodated between 5 and 8 transient residents. Under the Fair Housing Act, it is unlawful for government to discriminate in the sale, rental or use of housing on the basis of handicap and individuals recovering from drug or alcohol addiction are considered handicapped under the Act. In the court’s view, applying the town's zoning definition of "family" to evict the Oxford House residents due to the size or transient nature of the group living arrangement would discriminate against them because of their handicap. The court determined that the town's interest in uniform enforcement of its zoning ordinance was not a sufficient governmental interest justifying the eviction of the residents of Oxford house, since it had a much greater discriminatory impact on the handicapped.


The questions is of the day is.....

What business does the government have defining family?

Let me see if I can find someone on the state level to intervene.   

Sigh.....

Love ya,

S. 









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