A Child Abuser's Misogynist Rants (with update)

In memory of Beth Gallegos.


Today I am thankful for misogynistic rants; they help you see people for who they really are.

I'm having trouble breathing due to my asthma and I know....I know.....I need to get to a doctor.

This is going to be choppy.

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I took in an 18 year old whose father likes to beat her up in the middle of the night.

She stays here when he loses his cool.  I've warned her that, as a therapist, I'm a mandated reporter.

She has a younger sister.  If I hear anything about him hitting her sister, I will be forced to call the department of human services.

I know where they live.

I don't know the man's first name or the name of the minor child. 

His last name is the name of my favorite brand of brass instruments.  It's also sounds exactly like the name of my favorite Trek Villain.



This guy.....this guy.....had the absolute audacity to call me up and claim that I'm a man-hating lesbian!

Isn't that cute?

Maybe he thinks that because I drive a Pride Parade float.....

Or maybe it's because I won't do what he tells me to do. 

It was just a message.  I didn't get to respond to him. 

I guess women who don't do what men order them to do hate men.

This guy is a piece of work. 

I'm beginning to fear for his wife.

I fear for his younger daughter.  He takes the kids to therapy but he....

get this...

sits in the room with them! 

I'm curious as to whether or not the therapists are licensed.  If so, they are NOT behaving ethically. 


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He's wrong about me.

I'm not a man-hating lesbian.

I'm much, much worse....

You see.....

hate and love are opposite sides of the same coin.

To hate someone means that they elicit an emotional response.  He's not worthy of that type of emotional energy.

If I had an emotional response - it would mean I cared.

I don't.

I'm indifferent with regards to men I don't respect or want.


An indifferent woman is much, much harder to control than a woman who has to please men.....

-and-

she is harder to control than a woman that hates men.

He doesn't have anything I want.......unless it is to stop abusing his kids in the middle of the night.

He won't.

Seriously.....there is no value proposition there.

The only person I want to change her actions is the young lady staying here.  I'd like her to speak to a police officer about the abuse.  She needs empowered. 

I'd like her to see an ethical and unbiased licensed therapist. 

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Asshats are going to be asshats.  There is nothing I can do to stop that. 

I don't care what he wants. 

He may want to control my behavior.

I'm a hypnotist.

I tend to do the controlling in my communications. 

Man-hating lesbian -

Wow....I've heard it all. 

In 1987, I got kicked out of a band because I wouldn't sleep with a percussionist.

She was a beautiful busty blond

-but-

she wasn't my type.

I know.....there is some inexplicable attraction between bass players and drummers.

It's weird.  It really is. 

Love ya lots,

S. 

Edit an hour later: 

He just called my daughter trying to set up a meeting with me.

I'm sitting here singing "Hell is for children."

I'm doing a horrible job of it, too. 

No.  It wouldn't be wise to meet with me when I'm bloated, angry and accused of misandry. 

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

It's very cold in space.....

especially when that space is between your ears. 

- With apologies to Gene Roddenberry

The best thing I can do for this guy is to let the situation grow cold. 

Here's a tip:

Calling someone names is a good way to keep them from ever wanting to talk to you!

Lesbian?

Wow.....

just wow....

People are weird.

They really are. 

I don't want people like that in my home or my life. 

NEXT DAY EDIT:

He came over to the house unannounced and we had what felt like a dick measuring contest.

He endured my not wearing make-up and exposed gray roots.

He endured my sinus infection breath.

He's afraid that I'm trying to turn his daughter against men in general.....

and him in particular. 

Ugh!

He explained that he threw his daughter out of his house because she had dirty forks in her bedroom.

Dirty forks.......

I don't think I'm the person he has to worry about turning her against him. 

I only asked him one question.

How old is your daughter?

She's 18.

There is nothing I can say to turn her against anyone.

All I can do is give her space.

That's it. 

Maybe give her names of police officers and therapists.

He apologized for calling me a man-hating lesbian.....he said this because he felt I was trying to take his daughter away.

All I said was "feelings aren't facts."

I gave him my business card and let him know that I'm a mandated reporter.

There is only one way to build rapport with someone who hates you......

find common ground.

I asked.....

"What do you think of Donald Trump?"

He hates him.

Everyone dislikes something about Donald Trump.

He left feeling understood.

I think I understand him (cough...anger.....rage.....narcissism?...cough.....can't diagnose....mustn't diagnose.....emotional dysregulation disorder...dangerous temper.........not a guy I want in my home.....cough).

I feel like I got out of a pissing contest with a dangerous idiot.

Oh, get this....I'm a man hater because I "threw my husband out of the house."  Um.....ten years after he left me, called me by a different last name and said he wanted a divorce.  He was told to leave numerous times in the three and a half years AFTER OUR DIVORCE WAS FINAL!

I didn't tell this guy  that; he was just grasping at straws to make me look like the bad guy. 

It's none of his business just like his forks are none of mine. 

Manipulative people disgust me. 

Decent people don't let their kids' teenage friends become homeless two weeks before graduation.

Sigh......

NEXT TIME THIS GUY SHOWS UP WHEN I TELL HIM NOT TO COME OVER -

I'M CALLING THE POLICE.

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I learned something today.

I'm not a man-hating lesbian. 

According to millennials, people who don't want romantic relationships are a-romantic.

So, I was informed that I'm an equal opportunity a-romantic hater.

Awesome!

I have an identity!!

Sigh....

Who cares?

I don't like labels.....psychiatric or otherwise.