Today I am thankful for my new found resolution to only date people with graduate degrees; maybe I ought to hang out with people who have the same level of academic achievement.
I had a very nice day with Steve yesterday.
It was nice.
This morning I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with him.
Then....today, I thought I'd see if I could compliment him on his Facebook page and he has to post a poorly written study with the conclusion that nice and conscientious people will kill other people because government officials tell them to. Nice people are deadly. They will kill you because they do not want to disappoint the government.
He used this to push Anarchism. Nice people, he claimed, are statists.
Oh...my...goodness.....
Okay....that tears it.
Enough is enough.
I forgot how stupid his Anarchist rants are. I forgot his stupid assertions that All Libertarians believe this...misunderstand that...are that way....do these things....etc.
He's so smart that no one ever told him that if you must qualify a statement with the words "all, always, and every", you have a 99.99% probability of being wrong.
Really?
The study he posted had a mere 66 participants. It was quantitative. I was taught that you needed a minimum of 100 participants to give the study weight. I was told a few hundred was optimal.
They didn't even give each one a full Big 5 test. Mini-tests? Really? How do you measure anything?
They conclude that nice people will kill you for the government? I don't see how they did that using a valid methodology.
Did the researcher(s) ever read Milgram's Obedience to Authority?
They probably ought to have looked at personal history more than personality measures.
No....I seriously do not think niceness and conscientiousness has a darned thing to do with it. Cowards could do it. Immoral and/or immature people could do it.
I know plenty of nice and conscientious people who take on the government. Have you seen the crap government officials put activists through? They have rules and regulations pertaining to public action groups (so you had best be conscientious or risk going to jail). They will libel you in the press, so you had best be so nice that NO ONE in the community will believe the garbage they say about you.
The study if effin' bunk. It's a falsehood. It's a fraud. It is not indicative of reality. Of course, the hard truth is that most psychological studies will not be able to replicate the phenomena of the real world.
Can I spend the rest of my life with someone who likes to argue about things he doesn't understand? Do I have the patience for that? I don't know. I think I need to work on myself before embarking on a journey like that.
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This isn't the first time Steve has bitched about people who are too nice. He's said that about me before. He has complained that I'm too nice. He complains that I don't ask for what I want.
Oh, well.....perhaps.....if I want something, I'll just take it.
Why post that garbage online for your girlfriend to see? Why argue about it??? Is he a masochist? Does he do this shit to try to make me mean??? Does he want me to become authoritarian? Does he want me to pretend to kill him with electric shocks???
I feel publicly criticized.
I am seething.
I can't stand this.
I'm done, unless I get an apology.
I can't take it.
I can't take being judged by people quoting stupid psychology students who can't get the methodology straight.
I'm a little shocked. This is a little too funny (hurtful but funny).
First, don't try to make a nice girl mean. Guys you want a nice girl who is playful in the sack, right? You want a mixture of dirty and sweet. Oh, I know you do. You don't want a snarling witch wrapped inside a cloak of rabid bitch. If she's nice, why try to change her?
Secondly, Anarchists don't believe in authority. Quoting psychology students in a bid to control someone else is using an authority to bully someone into compliance. It is about the most un-anarchistic thing a person can do.
For some reason, I keep thinking about Forrest Gump.
I need a jar, so I can put $1 in it every time I say "stupid is as stupid does."
You know, I've got to take stock of my personal energy. What am I doing to attract political ideologues to me? Why do they have to be uneducated and opinionated?
Maybe.....maybe....I'm dumbing myself down.
Maybe....maybe...if people say I'm too nice, I need to kick a little more butt.
I typically only fight when I have a cause. Perhaps I need to find one and stay away from men.
If I see Steve again, maybe I should smack him on the head with my 300+ page master's thesis. The university had it hardbound for me.
My three published articles were published in softcover journals. I don't think they'd knock much sense into anyone.
Oh, and Steve is obviously not a stalker. If so, he would have found my books and research by now. He doesn't think I know what I'm talking about....so...he's not keeping tabs on me. That's nice to know. I hope he doesn't piss me off to the point of sending him links to my work on Google Scholar.
Maybe....I need to be alone until I find someone who I can actually....you know....talk to without fear of getting blasted for being smart.
Love ya,
S.
P.S. Yes, I am aware my grammar and punctuation are horrid. Let's just say that I love my editors!!! They are rock stars.