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Birth Control Games

Today I am thankful for clarity: I am beginning to see exactly what was going on.
 
I officially lost my health insurance on January 9th due to the divorce.  I had the option of demanding that my ex pay $450 per month in COBRA to keep me on his insurance but I thought that was stupid. 
 
Instead, I had a physical and got a prescription for birth control.  I have a medical reason for taking it.  I bleed so much that it makes it hard for me to go out in public IF I don't take my medication. 

I figured that doing it this way, I would have a year to get health insurance on my own and save him a small fortune. 
 
This is what I did. 
 
Today.....today....my ex informs me that he intercepted a call from one of my providers about my birth control before the divorce was final.  I no longer have a prescription. 

I think that I am going to have to save up money to pay for a doctor's visit to get it reinstated.  I'll have to pay for it out of pocket.  I am frustrated. 
So, I spent a couple of hours trying to find out why he would do such a thing. 
 
I can only guess that he doesn't want me to see other guys.  
 
I asked him.  He swears up and down that isn't the case.

He said that my boyfriend was a good guy and that he has a lot of respect for him.  He wants me to stay with him.  That's really not any of his business but okay....I'll try to believe that. 
 
I don't know. 
 
My ex hasn't honored any part of our separation agreement.  He's spent 50% of my settlement.  He's never split the accounts with me. 

He still lives here.  He was supposed to move out on October 21st.
 
He wound up with both cars. 
 
I got myself an old beater that he promised to help with.  He was to help me repair a tire.  I would do that and give him my mini-van so he wouldn't lose his job. 
 
He hasn't had time to help me with the tire.  I'm still a sitting duck. 
 
I still spend several hours a day cleaning up after him, doing his laundry and all that. 
 
I really don't have time anymore.  I want to be his friend but he makes so many problems for me, it's easier if I quit telling him things about my life.  It's easier if I don't let him intercept phone calls.
 
My life would be easier if I quit making concessions to him. 
 
I am frustrated. 
 
Today I asked him to quit being so passive-aggressive.  I threatened to become a heck of a lot more assertive.

He said he would type up a new legal agreement asserting when he would move out and promising me alimony if I sign away my rights to the van I was awarded and the $12K he took since June. 

You know, alimony will drop off once I make a decent wage.  It's a better deal for him.  
 
***** 
 
Today I promised to take on an abusive politician. 
 
I told my ex about it.  This politician likes to abuse code enforcement.  When I piss this politician off, my Wiccan herbs come under fire. 

I told my ex that I will have to learn how to take care of the lawn this summer because I'm going to get a lot cozier with our code enforcement guy. 
 
My ex said he would still be living here and that he'd do it. 

What? 
 
He wants to live here through the summer? 

I don't think I can do that. 
 
I'm freaking out a little bit. 
 
I tried to have a heart to heart with him.  He won't tell me what he wants. 

He reminded me that he started calling me his ex and sleeping apart from me in April of 2006, shortly before the stalking got really bad.  This was when we began planning to divorce.  This is why the cops say he's my stalker; it got bad when we started talking divorce.
 
I always think it was 2007.  It really was 2006. 

I remember now.  His uncle Chuck had died.  He went to the funeral without me and spent the day with his family.  I went to high school with his cousins, so he got to hear about my high school sweetheart, who had the same name as a famous hypnotist.  He came home and started calling me his "ex, Mrs. Erickson". 

To this day, I cry when I think of that. 

I hired a divorce attorney the next day and started selling hypnosis CDs to fund the process. 
 
He started a new job in 2006 and took a massive pay cut.  I tried to save money to pay the retainer.  It was a losing game.  He lost his job a mere 18 months later and didn't find another full time job until 2012.  I couldn't file until 2013 because there were a lot of other legal issues to clear away and the lawyers advised me to wait.

I was advised to get a real job before filing.  I had tried several times but the stalking tended to cost me opportunities.  I tried to work for myself but my sister-in-law and her boyfriend started to harass the other people in the office building.  They were afraid.  So was I.

I didn't know who was doing that until last January.  When I saw pictures of my in-laws, I could point out the stalkers.  It makes me angry. 

I thought that once he was out of the house, I could work without fear of retribution.  This is not going to happen, is it? 

UGH!!!
 
This has gone on far too long. 
 
I'm tempted to hire a lawyer and ask for legal fees.  They can clean up the mess.
 
I take on powerful politicians, why do I cow down before my stalkish and controlling ex? 
 
I don't know. 
 
I thought I'd document this somewhere in case things get weirder. 

I know Mike is behind the craziness.  I'm hurting. 

Why would someone control my prescriptions? 

I'm living with the enemy. 
 
What do I do?
 
Love ya,
 
S.

Edit:


I learned NOT to trust my ex to my personal information.  The doctors are going to get my Google Voice number from now on so he can't intercept anything as long as he is in this house. 

I earned enough money today to pay for a new gyno appointment to clear up any mischeivesousness.  I just can't figure out how he'd know these things with HIPPA and all. 

Maybe he's effing with me. 

I don't know. 

I just don't want to give it any more of my time. 

Who knows? 

This is why I'm divorced. 

All this does for me is prove that I did the right thing. 


Edit after doing research:

The only thing that could have happened is that he threw out my birth control pills.  They were shipped to me from the mail order pharmacy in early January.  I never got them.


I betcha he threw them out and claimed the prescription was canceled so I wouldn't ask questions.


Ugh...

It's time for a PO Box.




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