Today I am thankful for catching on to a narcissist on Facebook.
I've found this phenomenon before.
In the past, I found a website which claimed to be run by shrinks researching the phenomenology of living with a narcissist. On the forum, one got the sickly sense that these so called admins were getting their narcissistic supply reading about the pain of others.
Of course, I had to Google the name of the admins. One of them is a self-proclaimed narcissist who wrote a book and has a ton of YouTube videos. His videos and book are informative because they show us what goes on in the mind of a narcissist -but- his theories are warped by his personality disorder.
I had this experience on Facebook today.
There is a page called Narcology.
That's cool enough. They post witty memes from time to time.
A lot of the time they are incredibly negative. I can't stand to like much of their stuff because my friends would be exposed to the negativity.
Okay....
Today....today the admin was crazy.
Yeah....she wrote...get this....that people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder study Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) and use it to attack other people. She went on to write that you could buy tapes and such teaching you how to do this online.
Then she went on to confuse Bandler and Grinder with Freud.
It didn't bother me until someone wrote "oh, my God!!" Other people had no idea that you could learn to be controlling buying tapes online.
Okay.....buying crappy self-help tapes is not the root cause of narcissistic personality disorder.
Bad parenting combined with a family history of class B Personality disorders is believed to be the root cause of NPD.
Most narcissists I know will only buy the tapes or sign up for classes. They won't put in any effort into learning anything new.
It is a PERSONALITY DISORDER!
It IS a way of living.
I tried to explain that NLP wasn't this mystical thing. It was just a therapeutic tool to help people get control of their thoughts. It DOES NOT work if people don't want it to work.
Narcissists don't need NLP to do what they do. They need to have access to a person with empathy who will go the extra mile to give people the attention they feel they deserve. Narcissists use another person's good qualities against them in order to meet their ego needs.
They are akin to psychic vampires who exhaust the energy of their victims by taking up their time and attention.
The admin attacked me quite publicly!
Three times!!
Then, she claimed that I put words in her mouth!!
Oh....boy....I saw what was going on.
She was trying to provoke me.
I realized that I was dealing with a narcissist using me to get supply. I unfollowed her page. When she continued to attack me, I wrote that she did NOT know what she was talking about.
She doesn't.
I fully expect her to write some slander about me and delete my comments to maintain her stellar image. I know what narcissism looks like.
She's got 9,300+ people to give her potential supply, I need not be one of them.
I've got bigger political and personal battles to wage. I don't have time for crazy people.
Here is my word of warning.
The internet is a freaky place.
Stay away from idiots holding themselves out as experts.
As my graduate clinical counseling professor explained to me,
"an ex is a has been while a spurt is a drip under pressure."
Be mindful of where you get your information.
Love ya,
S.