Not Getting My Mail

Today I finally understand why my credit cards aren't working.

I received an email from my bank. It appears that someone is sending my mail back.

Ugh...

This never ends.

My auto insurance company wants me to cancel my policy to get my ex off of it. Apparently, someone may have called to cancel me from my own auto insurance.

The games get old.

There is a contempt of court hearing tomorrow.

My lawyer doesn't think anything is going to happen.

My ex didn't pay me the full amount from the property settlement. It took him about a year to share it with me as he didn't want to give me the money until I broke up with the guy I was seeing.

When I broke up with Steve, I got some of the money.

My ex has never paid child support. According to the county, he doesn't have to pay it so long as he lives at my home.

This may be why he refuses to move out after agreeing to move out on October 21, 2013.

He was employed the first two years after our divorce. During those years, he refused mediation and I was afraid of pissing off his family of stalkers so I didn't push the issue too hard.

Those were scary years.

When I got my job, he lost his. I filed the contempt action when he claimed to have a job where he'd make $40,000 a year.

He lost his job just a few days later. First, he said he quit. Now he says he was fired.

I'm not sure a judge can do anything if he's unemployed.

He's not looking for work. I'm trying to get him to visit the local workforce center but he refuses.

He claims the City of Aurora is going to get him a job and housing.

A job....okay.

Housing and I'll have a conniption. He can go live with his stalkerish family.

The city can house the battered women that line the fence of Cherry Creek State Park.

Or maybe the homeless guys I see from time to time on East Colfax.

Don't reward manipulation.

We'll see.

I was informed the judge probably won't ask him to move out despite my dropping $4,500 on a lawyer.

I have a crush on a guy who owns a lot of property. I asked him for the name of his eviction lawyer.

The lawyer is from my home town. I've got a good feeling about him.

You can't live with your stalkers, harassers and abusive exes. It's crazy that the court system expects me to put up with this.

If a guy doesn't want to pay child support, he doesn't have to. All he has to do is stop working.

If I'm not supporting him, though, he's going to have to get a job to put a roof over his head.

I'm curious to see what is going to happen next.

Love ya,

S.

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