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Asshole Games


Today I am thankful that I caught on to asshole games.

I balanced my checkbook today. 

I put everything on a credit card so I can get the cash back and I pay it off at the end of the month.  The marriage killed my credit and I'm trying to get it back.

I have the auto insurance taken out of my checking account.  As I was looking at the ledger, I noticed my auto insurance payment was only $36.00.  Not $97.00.

Michael is still on my auto insurance because he refuses to leave my house.  I fear any liability if he wrecks his car, so I kept him on the policy until he moves out.

I haven't seen the new declarations page.  He checks the mail.  I asked to see it.

He didn't know where it was.

Oh....

So...I tried calling Amerprise and they were closed.

It took awhile but I figured out how to create an online account, something I've avoided doing because of the stalking....and the hacking.....

Low and behold - MY CAR WAS REMOVED ON 08/11/2016!!!

I've only been paying for HIS auto insurance.

I added my car back using an online form.  I left a message for the company asking if I needed to get another home and auto policy so I can remove him from the administrative functions.

This will never end, will it?

I'm shopping around for new auto and home insurance.  I'm a licensed insurance agent in eight states and D.C.  It was the cheapest way for a self-employed hypnotist to get health coverage. 

The ex game bites.

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I've spent $4,500 after the divorce to get this guy out of the house. 

We finally have a court date on Friday.  My lawyer said that the judge probably won't ask him to leave.

I spoke to the Sheriff.  If the judge won't get rid of him on Friday, I'll take it to another court.

The restraining order is harder.  He's asking his family to harass me.  I can only get restraining orders on Doug V3ga, Rhonda K0z10wsk1 and the people who have harassed me in the past......

Not the guy who has admitted to giving them keys to the house and asked them to harass people I know.

One of them pretended to be an Ameriprise agent. 

I need to get new insurance.

So long as they know who my insurer is, they can use that to try to intimidate my kids into letting them into the house.

They guy pretending to be the insurance agent nearly hit me head on in the street as I was taking the youngest to school.

He was not an agent for my auto insurer.

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My ex expects me to continue paying for his auto insurance.

I don't want to do that. 

I'm paying for his food.  He's mooching off me for water, electricity and rent.

He's taking over my house.

I'm tired of subsidizing my own misery.

He must have removed my car from the policy.

I can't imagine what else happened.

He may have been mad that I wouldn't let him borrow my car last August.  He was fired because he did not have transportation.   

I gave him my van.  A guy from Centurylink hit it.  They gave him $1,980.00 to fix it.  It needed a radiator after the wreck. He didn't fix it. He spent the money on a phone and business cards.

It's not my problem. 

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I am disgusted with the lawyer.

I think there is a trick with family lawyers.  I think they size up the amount of assets you have and then decide that they won't work until you pay them a percentage of that amount in legal fees.

In the future, I'm going to ask how much money they require to start actually working on the case.

I'm not going to ask how much they want for a retainer.

I'm going to ask how much money they need to put a stop to the crap.

It must be a racket.

It's sick.

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I guess I have to take the bus until I figure out what is going on with the insurance. 

I am really angry at the games.

I can't buy his food if I can't drive my car.  I can't go to work if I can't drive my car.

If I can't work, I can't support his lazy arse, either.

People like that can't reason, can they?

He's got to go. He was supposed to move out on 10-21-2013.

He is still here!  He's refused numerous mediation sessions and he's ignored my lawyer.

It's getting old. 

Love ya,

S. 




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