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A Breakthrough.....Maybe....

Today I am thankful for the Sheriff's office.

I learned that my lawyer doesn't understand domestic violence and control issues.  He doesn't think I can get a restraining order because he doesn't think I'm in danger or have any reason to be afraid.

He thinks I let my ex stay here.  Nope.  I've asked for mediation several times and that is probably a matter of record on my file with the courthouse. In fact, I hired this lawyer six months ago to get him out.  My ex is still here.....$4,500 later. 

My ex refuses to leave. 

I am looking around for another lawyer.  I need someone that understands my issue.

This guy doesn't get it.  

Few people do.

The police said they'll help me if they can catch my ex acting out.  He's been on pretty good behavior lately.  If he punches a wall, they'll help me get a restraining order. 

That hasn't happened since the divorce.

I still find it hard to believe that I have to share my house with a guy who is having me stalked and asking his relatives to contact people I knew in the past.

I'm uncomfortable.  Why do I have to live with someone who makes me uncomfortable? Why do I have to allow this person access to my phone and my computer?

This person knows my routine.  I'm sure that helps with the stalking behavior. 

I'm afraid of his family.  He has told me that he has given them keys to my house in the past.

Why can't I change the locks?

This is scary.  I feel like my life is on hold pending his departure. 

I spoke to someone who told me to call the Sheriff. 

Luckily, the Sheriff listened.  I can't say what I was told to do but it seems much more hopeful that sitting around paying a lawyer $1,500 every two months to have his paralegal email me every month or so to ask how I'm doing and to tell me to wait it out.

I'm feeling hopeful.  I'll let you know when it is over.

Love ya,

S. 


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