Skip to main content

Stalkerish Ex Found the Security Camera

Today I am thankful that we have four security cameras trained on the front yard.

This evening, my ex stopped by for his visit with the kids.

It's a little sad.  He's gained some more weight and lost his hair.  He walks with a slight limp.

He knocked on the door, looked up and stepped back.

I watched the footage in real-time.

The youngest came out of the house and my ex's hand pointed upwards while he asked, "Can you see me with that camera?"

She responded, "Yes.", while looking into the camera.

Yes, I can see you.  I can see anyone that comes to the door.

I saw the bald guy who messed around the ladder leading to the roof on Wednesday.  I'm not sure who he is but he looks a heck of a lot like the guy who nearly hit me head on in the street while pretending to be with Ameriprise Insurance.  Ameriprise investigated the incident and told me to call the cops. 

To this day, I can't fathom why anyone thinks my ex owns my home.

Not only can I see anyone who comes to the door, I can hear them.

The video is immediately uploaded into the cloud.

This week, I've not only seen my ex and the bald guy....

I saw my private investigator neighbor inspecting the property minutes after the bald guy left. He knocked on the door but I wasn't home.

I need to send that neighbor a fruit basket.

The neighbor's fluffy black cat visits often.  She also brought us a dead mouse.  Her name is Vertigo. She's beautiful.  

Even if he doesn't understand how incredibly disturbed I am about the stalking,

I can see him.  I can see any cronies he sends my way.

If I can see them, so can the cops.

I can also share the video in a full moon circle (just teasing.....) or with the hoodoo practitioner I adore. .

I'm trying to understand how things got so bad.

I'm realizing that my biggest mistake was not getting to meet my ex's full family and to stay away from his family events after his mom, sister, father and brother (among others) became physically abusive.

My ex has a huge family - I've met some of the people he sent to harass me.  Others, I don't know and only learned of their identity when my ex pointed them out in photographs.

I divorced to be free of the bullshit.

You know, I'm tired of crap.

It's time to be safe.

Love ya,

S.

Popular posts from this blog

Stalker Proxy Phone Calls

What kind of songs do narcissistic stalkers sing?  I imagine they sing songs like this.   I am grateful now that I understand why the stalker has people call  but   wish they'd listen when I ask them not to call again.  I probably should document this somewhere.  My ex was talking to an old friend of mine from high school on a daily basis.  She is his cousin.   I had to quit talking to her when she'd ask me to plan parties and then refuse to give me the guest list saying that the attendees would only be me, her, my stalker Shannon, and my NPD mother-in-law.   She wanted me to plan interventions.   This happened with a baby shower.  It also happened with a wedding.  The in-laws put together a fake wedding trying to host an intervention to shame me and my ex into doing things for them (like quit school and give them my car).   I had to cut this so-called friend off over that in 2004....

The Love Gods Have a Sense of Humor

Today I am thankful about the ever-changeable, ever-humorous universe.   It is said that 'in life, the only constant is change.' Ah, this is a true tidbit, isn't it? I recently vowed NOT to date until Michael officially moves out of the house.  I also vowed NOT to be close to him unless he signs up for FOO (Family of Origin) and Relationship counseling.  I've been with the man nearly a quarter of a century, he's not going to go to therapy to have a relationship with me. He plays games with money, divorce agreements, custody arrangements, transportation, and all sorts of things to keep me stuck here.  It's nothing money and a lawyer can't solve.  ***** They say that dysfunctional people have three weapons that they use to keep people under their thumb.  The acronym is FOG. Yes, they are FOG machines. What does FOG stand for? F ear O bligation -and- G uilt Yes, there is fear.  Fear that he won't honor hi...

Personality Theory

Today I am thankful for personality theory. I can't say that I buy into it very much.  People change over the course of their lives.  Healthy people grow.  Unhealthy people either stay static or regress.  So what one tests today may change tomorrow. I do believe that personality theories (even ancient ones like astrology) create self-fulfilling prophecies.  If people buy into it, it gives a lot of insight into their characters, needs, and behaviors.   I've spent most of my adult life studying personality theories.  From Eric Fromm's theory's about authoritian -vs- mature personalities and how authoritians fear power while mature people revel in it to Jung's introvert -vs- extrovert theory.  A major one of interest to me is an offshoot of Jung, it is the MBTI type inventory.  When I'm happy, I'm a textbook INFJ. When I'm pissed off and wanting to strangle my ex, I act like a ESTP.  My ex is a ESTP a...