Today I am thankful that I know people fighting bad government.
Yesterday, I received an email claiming my ex was an alcoholic and demanding that I allow him to permanently reduce his child support and absolve him of any responsibility to carry health insurance on the kids. The reason for this, I was told, is that he is in an inpatient drug and alcoholic rehabilitation program sponsored by the Denver Rescue Mission.
I was also told that he would be there for a minimum of 18 months and only make $6 per week, so he can't pay child support. I was told that he would possibly be there as long as 27 months. For this reason, the lowering of his support would be permanent.
He would not be allowed to visit the children.
I wish he were not allowed to contact me.
In court filings, the Colorado Child Support Services division gave him the bright idea of avoiding child support for 18 months by entering this program.
They provided my ex with three lawyers to fight me. The taxpayers pay for this.
Okay.....I agree.
They win.
The kids won't get help from him. He is absolved from helping.
At least, they'll win this battle.
We the people will win the bigger war.
Guess what??!!
My ex wrote me today to ask for money and access to my home to store his stuff. He claims he cannot afford the rent on his storage unit.
You know what? Not being able to afford rent is a natural consequence of refusing to work so that one can lower child support.
A divorce is the natural consequence of stalking and financial abuse.
An ex unwilling to help you is a natural consequence of taking advantage of her with lies.
I'm incredibly angry.
I cannot believe the State of Colorado set me up like this. They put a non-alcoholic into an alcoholic inpatient program, claiming that he had to take urine tests daily to prove he has stopped drinking due to his placement in an alcoholic rehabilitation program. Someone at the Denver Rescue Mission wrote that letter. It was submitted to my lawyer with a request to absolve child support.
It letter makes it sound like he's drinking.
Once I agreed, my ex told me he's not an alcoholic and requested favors from me. He claimed that they put him in the program because he's depressed.
I hate to sound rude -but - so what?
I'm not depressed?
The kids aren't depressed?
Stalking and financial abuse takes its toll, you know.
I'm taking so much medication that I've gained 40 pounds.
I still work.
No one will help me shirk my responsibilities. Heck, CO-PEP promised to help me find a job but they lied. They don't help custodial parents.
They ONLY help DEADBEAT PARENTS!
So, I'm depressed and I take pills.
What else am I to do?
I've got to keep my energy up to find that second job.
According to the State of Colorado, the only person who matters is my ex-husband.
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Now......I've got to get my a$$ in front of someone who fights organizations like CO-PEP.
May the truth of this hideous organization come out.
Their mission is supposed to be connecting kids to the non-custodial parents. You don't do that by lying to the custodial parent and hiding the non-custodial parent away until such time as the kids hit the age of majority.
He will miss concerts and graduations.
Don't they give a hoot about that?
Doesn't my ex care?
My kids will notice.
This will KILL his relationship with them.
CO-PEP doesn't understand that, do they?
I'm sad and confused.
I will never trust a damn word my ex says.
Just watch....the moment the judge signs off on my agreement, he'll get himself another $50,000 job and hide.
I was scammed.
CO-PEP helped.
Who in the heck puts a non-alcoholic into a 2-3 year long alcohol treatment program?
Someone who gets a kickback, I'm afraid.
I'm curious if the taxpayers are paying for his unnecessary alcohol rehabilitation stay.
I need to hunt for CAFRs and other information. Something stinks to high heaven.
I pray their funding is gutted in 2018 and the program discontinued.
Anyone in any other organization who knowingly enables abuse should lose their government funding. Taxpayers shouldn't pay to push single mothers onto TANF.
They're lucky I'm libertarian.
I'd rather starve.
I hate to say it about the Denver Rescue Mission -but- it's sad they need to be reminded that it's wrong to lie. I think that was on one of those tablets Moses brought down from the moutain. If your department head wrote a letter claiming that my ex is an alcoholic to get him out of child support and he's not - understand....Jesus is watching that.
Lies ruin our credibility
I am literally debating going to the media. I'd have to hide my face. I don't want the kids finding out that their dad is a deadbeat.
I'm sure they'll figure it out on their own.
I don't think it matters what religion you are, Pagan or Christian, lies are wrong - especially when they create hardships for other people.
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My temporary job ends in two weeks. I think I may have found another three month gig. It pays less. It's only a part-time job.
I'm also looking into delivering for Amazon between shifts.
I cannot afford to sleep. Thanks CO-PEP! I don't think that is what child support was designed to do.
I don't think it was designed to be a game to enable an abuser to continue to abuse the ex and kids.
It was supposed to allow custodial parents to maintain a decent standard of living for the children without working two or three jobs.
It was supposed to enable non-custodial parents to see their kids.
CO-PEP fails to understand what child support is meant for.
I hope each and every employee is polishing up his or her resume.
I'll scheme ways to pay for my kiddos AP placement tests, my needed surgery and the youngest's braces.
It's all up to me.
Thanks Colorado.
This is why TABOR will never end - you use the money to terrorize honest people.
Love ya - love ya more when you're not working for the government anymore,
S.