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Social Worker Insight

Today I am thankful for the insight of a former colleague.


A friend of mine and I spent some time together today.  She and I are former victim advocates.

I mentioned that the Colorado State Child Support Enforcement office put my ex into a rehab program run by the Denver Rescue Mission which forbids my ex from speaking to his kids or leaving the premises to visit with them (or work) for a period ranging from 90 days to 18 months.

Personally, I'm shocked that this guy has conned everybody into believing he is homeless and is incapable of earning a living.

Her take was more interesting.....

She thinks that someone on the state level is trying to protect me from the stalking.

She told me that she's happy that I'll be safe for at least 90 days.  If he's convinced everyone he needs rehab and is locked up, I'm safe for that period of time.

You know what, she's right on some level.

No one has tried breaking into my home since June.

Maybe things are changing?

I don't know.

It sounds like it's a voluntary rehab - so I would expect that if I agreed to abate his child support, he'd leave immediately and go back to being an accountant.

It's not like he's been court ordered into rehab.

Maybe someone is looking out for me.  Perhaps this is meant to buy me some time.

We'll see.

There has to be more to the story.

At least I'll have some time to find ways to support the kids on my own. I'll work on finding more gigs to supplement my income.

Sometimes all we need is the perspective of a friend.  It helps to see through fresh eyes.

May you get the insight you need when you need it.

Love ya lots,

S.

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