Today I am thankful for an epiphany; the stalkers cannot have confirmation of their successes.
I've been trying to reflect on the stalking.
I'll never really understand it. I'll never know why my sister-in-law and her boyfriend watched Tom and I drink tea.
I'll never know why his sister watched Steve and I drink coffee.
I'll never know who was watching Jim and I discuss hypnosis in a coffee shop. He looked just like Mike but I didn't get close enough to be sure it was him.
I'll never know how his cousin knew I'd be at King Soopers on the other side of town on a Sunday I typically worked.
I'll never know who hacked my phones or why Michael's voice could be heard on them even though no incoming call was logged.
I'll never know who damaged my laptops.
I'll never know why the police were meddling around in my garage or who put the GPS box on my car.
I'll never understand why Mike's friends would call to harass my boss until I lost my job.....I cannot forgive the asshat who harassed me when I interned for the DA. The DA needs to arrest this guy for murder. I told the Assistant DA what I know. this guy murdered his 18 month old daughter. The press knew it (one reporter was sued for telling the truth). I knew it based on a phone call I received the day she died. When his wife left him, an Arapahoe County judge gave him custody of the two other children.
What does one do if people in the judicial system refuse to deal with domestic violence? Our power does not extend beyond voting NO for retention every few years.
I'll never know why my ex-husband's sister harassed my professors on campus.....
or why she broke into the house....
why her boyfriend would hang outside my house until he was confronted by my biker neighbors (who I miss...stupid Aurora.....the city had them evicted because too many disabled vets shared the rental home).
I am realizing that Michael was the stalker and the proof is in the fact that he refused to leave my home as per the divorce agreement. The kicker isn't that he refused to leave my home....the kicker is that he refused to allow ME to leave the home.
His motive was control.
I'm realizing that all the demands on my time since I lost my job are ways to keep tabs on me and control of my time. I don't check my email as much as I used to check it due to the weirdness.
I get the sense that the child support modification game is similar to the alimony game. He lost his job right as I requested mediation. Alimony was off the table because he zeroed out his income.
He hasn't really looked for work. If I tell him about a job he yells at me.
The child support paperwork is just a way to get more information about my life. I'm tempted just to ask the county to leave him alone. I can live on four hours of sleep. I can work three jobs.
This guy will pretend to be impoverished until he zeros out his child support. He told me that the City of Aurora has provided him with a vocational counselor who said he could earn $90,000 a year. He also tells me that the city is paying for his apartment (which he claims is shared with a drug addict and hordes of bedbugs).
I don't know what to believe. I'll be very irritated if I find out that this abuser is gaming the system and living off of the city's general fund (or pot revenue). I wonder if the City Manager could tell me just how they are funding these alleged benefits.
The City Manager's office isn't very transparent.
I haven't dared mention this to my activist friends because I don't know if it is true.
I could always contact the local reporters who need a story. Again, it's hard to tell if my ex is lying to me.
Why waste a reporter's time if my ex is making it up to try to get my goat?
I won't give him the reins.
*****
The stalking is weighing on my mind.
This all comes on the heels of more property damage. I realized I cannot say what has been damaged because it will make it easier for people to break into my house.
I cannot fix this damage easily. I need to get a loan. I tried earlier but the bank wanted proof that I receive child support.
I don't. I never will.
I may have a temporary job on Monday. My former employer wants me to report on Monday but they won't tell me when or where. The division was sold and they're still a little disorganized. So, until I have that information, I don't think I'm employed. It is a 20% pay cut. My commissions which were previously around $1,000 a month will be capped at $250.
It'll buy me some time to figure out what to do.
I know the people working there, so it'll feel like a party on some level.
I signed up with a delivery company. I just have to find better auto insurance just in case something happens before doing the work for them.
I'm still terrified to advertise my hypnosis business. Whenever I spend large amounts of time in my office, my in-laws show up or the door is damaged.
I may want to wait until things blow over before going back into my beloved profession full time.
******
I found myself whining to a big shot Libertarian about it after she commented on a news story.
We had a news radio host arrested for sending harassing text messages to his ex. Many people don't understand the big deal.
The big deal isn't the text messages. It is the fact that people without boundaries escalate their behavior. I laughed off Mike's family for more than 20 years before I started to consider what they were doing to be stalking.
The day the tide shifted was 1-11-2011. They roughed up a 65 year old woman in my office building because she wouldn't tell them where I went to church. She was too terrified to cooperate with the police.
That was the day, I realized how dangerous this game had become.
It had also become expensive. My hypnosis business has not quite been the same since that day.
Many people I know think obnoxious men should be allowed to behave like idiotic little boys. You know what, if someone won't leave you alone even though you ask them to leave you alone, that person has issues.
Those issues can become deadly. At this point, they're treating you like an object not a person. It's easy for some people to justify destroying objects.
Don't think you can deal with it alone.
My Libertarian friend thinks domestic violence laws are crap. Yeah, I think people in the system could be better educated about it because the true abusers know how to manipulate the system. Sociopaths and other sinister asshats throw whatever they can at a wall and hope it sticks. People with scruples may find it hard to sort out the crap from the truth so they throw their hands up in the air and let the abusive lying jerks win.
My activist friend shocked me by telling me to me to start calling the police.
I don't call anymore.
I stopped.
I quit calling the day someone set a fire on my porch and the cop who answered the non-emergency line said my ex was just messing with my head. I got tired of hearing that the Arapahoe County DA won't prosecute stalking unless it is a slam dunk case. This was the rationale the cops used to refuse to take reports.
And this DA wants to be Governor......that's cute! It's NOT going to happen. I don't care if a washed up rock star gives him an endorsement. This guy is not very dedicated to the law of the land.
I did call the police the when an at-large felon tried to sexually assault someone in the neighborhood. I sat with the girl when she made her report. He was caught a few hours later.
I did call when I thought the neighbors were going to kill each other over the parking spot in front of my house. The dispatcher argued with me. No one was sent out. I was pissed. I'm a hypnotist. I took care of it myself.
I was in my recording studio at the time making a meditation recording for someone dying of cancer.
So, I told them that I recorded their disturbance.
I did.
If they settled down, I'd destroy the recording.
Problem solved.
Easy....peasy.
*****
I don't know.
I need to get the house fixed up to sell it. It needs new paint, new gutters, a new roof and new carpet.
I need to ask permission from the court to move.
It is becoming apparent that I've got to get out of the line of fire.
I'll never know why this happened.
I know that my ex lied to his family. They said he told them that I abused him. In turn, they harassed me. My ex said that they were trying to push me out of my home.
I don't know why the city attorneys did what they did. They repeated his lies in court and then later claimed that my ex lied to them, too -but- why they'd illegally steal money from my family and try to intimidate me on the phone is bizarre.
I don't think they expected my reaction. Um.....yeah.....it's not every day someone starts a PAC because a local government is allowing its employees to break the law, is it?
I'm going to laugh about that until the day I die (which may be sooner than I want if I don't move).
The issue with the city will be another fight for another day.
I'm a bit excited. Another Libertarian has actually figured out how to prevent what happened to me from happening to other people. This guy is awesome.
If his ballot initiative passes, the city will have to turn over any fines collected to the charity of the payer's choice.
This is all I wanted the city to do with the $1,000 it took from me (no, they didn't stop at the first $500 they took). The first chunk of money went it into my ex's supervisor's travel fund. I don't know where the other $500 went. I wanted them to give the money to charity and stop illegally fining employees.
I can help fight that issue a new way without taking credit.
That's awesome.
******
Yes, I want to play the witchy crap up again.
A couple of days ago, a political wanna-be explained why everyone calls me a witch.
Didn't I know?
All hypnotists are witches!!!
I wish I could find a spell to let me have a familiar without sneezing then.....
If I were an all powerful sorceress, my life would be much, much different.
I'd have a cat and a pit bull. If my friend succeeds at passing his ballot initiative, the city won't have any financial reasons to want to fine people for having pseudo wolves and for mistaking boxers for pit bulls.
Yes, I'm excited. It would be nice to but an end to what I call "gotcha taxation."
In thinking about it, I guess I'm a witch with a capital B.
It helps to remind myself that some people are strange.
Other people are brilliant.
Some of us are stranger than others.
I'm lucky in that I hang out with people so bright that I don't have to stay in the dark very long.
May you find your tribe and enjoy your time with them.
Love ya,
S.
I've been trying to reflect on the stalking.
I'll never really understand it. I'll never know why my sister-in-law and her boyfriend watched Tom and I drink tea.
I'll never know why his sister watched Steve and I drink coffee.
I'll never know who was watching Jim and I discuss hypnosis in a coffee shop. He looked just like Mike but I didn't get close enough to be sure it was him.
I'll never know how his cousin knew I'd be at King Soopers on the other side of town on a Sunday I typically worked.
I'll never know who hacked my phones or why Michael's voice could be heard on them even though no incoming call was logged.
I'll never know who damaged my laptops.
I'll never know why the police were meddling around in my garage or who put the GPS box on my car.
I'll never understand why Mike's friends would call to harass my boss until I lost my job.....I cannot forgive the asshat who harassed me when I interned for the DA. The DA needs to arrest this guy for murder. I told the Assistant DA what I know. this guy murdered his 18 month old daughter. The press knew it (one reporter was sued for telling the truth). I knew it based on a phone call I received the day she died. When his wife left him, an Arapahoe County judge gave him custody of the two other children.
What does one do if people in the judicial system refuse to deal with domestic violence? Our power does not extend beyond voting NO for retention every few years.
I'll never know why my ex-husband's sister harassed my professors on campus.....
or why she broke into the house....
why her boyfriend would hang outside my house until he was confronted by my biker neighbors (who I miss...stupid Aurora.....the city had them evicted because too many disabled vets shared the rental home).
I am realizing that Michael was the stalker and the proof is in the fact that he refused to leave my home as per the divorce agreement. The kicker isn't that he refused to leave my home....the kicker is that he refused to allow ME to leave the home.
His motive was control.
I'm realizing that all the demands on my time since I lost my job are ways to keep tabs on me and control of my time. I don't check my email as much as I used to check it due to the weirdness.
I get the sense that the child support modification game is similar to the alimony game. He lost his job right as I requested mediation. Alimony was off the table because he zeroed out his income.
He hasn't really looked for work. If I tell him about a job he yells at me.
The child support paperwork is just a way to get more information about my life. I'm tempted just to ask the county to leave him alone. I can live on four hours of sleep. I can work three jobs.
This guy will pretend to be impoverished until he zeros out his child support. He told me that the City of Aurora has provided him with a vocational counselor who said he could earn $90,000 a year. He also tells me that the city is paying for his apartment (which he claims is shared with a drug addict and hordes of bedbugs).
I don't know what to believe. I'll be very irritated if I find out that this abuser is gaming the system and living off of the city's general fund (or pot revenue). I wonder if the City Manager could tell me just how they are funding these alleged benefits.
The City Manager's office isn't very transparent.
I haven't dared mention this to my activist friends because I don't know if it is true.
I could always contact the local reporters who need a story. Again, it's hard to tell if my ex is lying to me.
Why waste a reporter's time if my ex is making it up to try to get my goat?
I won't give him the reins.
*****
The stalking is weighing on my mind.
This all comes on the heels of more property damage. I realized I cannot say what has been damaged because it will make it easier for people to break into my house.
I cannot fix this damage easily. I need to get a loan. I tried earlier but the bank wanted proof that I receive child support.
I don't. I never will.
I may have a temporary job on Monday. My former employer wants me to report on Monday but they won't tell me when or where. The division was sold and they're still a little disorganized. So, until I have that information, I don't think I'm employed. It is a 20% pay cut. My commissions which were previously around $1,000 a month will be capped at $250.
It'll buy me some time to figure out what to do.
I know the people working there, so it'll feel like a party on some level.
I signed up with a delivery company. I just have to find better auto insurance just in case something happens before doing the work for them.
I'm still terrified to advertise my hypnosis business. Whenever I spend large amounts of time in my office, my in-laws show up or the door is damaged.
I may want to wait until things blow over before going back into my beloved profession full time.
******
I found myself whining to a big shot Libertarian about it after she commented on a news story.
We had a news radio host arrested for sending harassing text messages to his ex. Many people don't understand the big deal.
The big deal isn't the text messages. It is the fact that people without boundaries escalate their behavior. I laughed off Mike's family for more than 20 years before I started to consider what they were doing to be stalking.
The day the tide shifted was 1-11-2011. They roughed up a 65 year old woman in my office building because she wouldn't tell them where I went to church. She was too terrified to cooperate with the police.
That was the day, I realized how dangerous this game had become.
It had also become expensive. My hypnosis business has not quite been the same since that day.
Many people I know think obnoxious men should be allowed to behave like idiotic little boys. You know what, if someone won't leave you alone even though you ask them to leave you alone, that person has issues.
Those issues can become deadly. At this point, they're treating you like an object not a person. It's easy for some people to justify destroying objects.
Don't think you can deal with it alone.
My Libertarian friend thinks domestic violence laws are crap. Yeah, I think people in the system could be better educated about it because the true abusers know how to manipulate the system. Sociopaths and other sinister asshats throw whatever they can at a wall and hope it sticks. People with scruples may find it hard to sort out the crap from the truth so they throw their hands up in the air and let the abusive lying jerks win.
My activist friend shocked me by telling me to me to start calling the police.
I don't call anymore.
I stopped.
I quit calling the day someone set a fire on my porch and the cop who answered the non-emergency line said my ex was just messing with my head. I got tired of hearing that the Arapahoe County DA won't prosecute stalking unless it is a slam dunk case. This was the rationale the cops used to refuse to take reports.
And this DA wants to be Governor......that's cute! It's NOT going to happen. I don't care if a washed up rock star gives him an endorsement. This guy is not very dedicated to the law of the land.
I did call the police the when an at-large felon tried to sexually assault someone in the neighborhood. I sat with the girl when she made her report. He was caught a few hours later.
I did call when I thought the neighbors were going to kill each other over the parking spot in front of my house. The dispatcher argued with me. No one was sent out. I was pissed. I'm a hypnotist. I took care of it myself.
I was in my recording studio at the time making a meditation recording for someone dying of cancer.
So, I told them that I recorded their disturbance.
I did.
If they settled down, I'd destroy the recording.
Problem solved.
Easy....peasy.
*****
I don't know.
I need to get the house fixed up to sell it. It needs new paint, new gutters, a new roof and new carpet.
I need to ask permission from the court to move.
It is becoming apparent that I've got to get out of the line of fire.
I'll never know why this happened.
I know that my ex lied to his family. They said he told them that I abused him. In turn, they harassed me. My ex said that they were trying to push me out of my home.
I don't know why the city attorneys did what they did. They repeated his lies in court and then later claimed that my ex lied to them, too -but- why they'd illegally steal money from my family and try to intimidate me on the phone is bizarre.
I don't think they expected my reaction. Um.....yeah.....it's not every day someone starts a PAC because a local government is allowing its employees to break the law, is it?
I'm going to laugh about that until the day I die (which may be sooner than I want if I don't move).
The issue with the city will be another fight for another day.
I'm a bit excited. Another Libertarian has actually figured out how to prevent what happened to me from happening to other people. This guy is awesome.
If his ballot initiative passes, the city will have to turn over any fines collected to the charity of the payer's choice.
This is all I wanted the city to do with the $1,000 it took from me (no, they didn't stop at the first $500 they took). The first chunk of money went it into my ex's supervisor's travel fund. I don't know where the other $500 went. I wanted them to give the money to charity and stop illegally fining employees.
I can help fight that issue a new way without taking credit.
That's awesome.
******
Yes, I want to play the witchy crap up again.
A couple of days ago, a political wanna-be explained why everyone calls me a witch.
Didn't I know?
All hypnotists are witches!!!
I wish I could find a spell to let me have a familiar without sneezing then.....
If I were an all powerful sorceress, my life would be much, much different.
I'd have a cat and a pit bull. If my friend succeeds at passing his ballot initiative, the city won't have any financial reasons to want to fine people for having pseudo wolves and for mistaking boxers for pit bulls.
Yes, I'm excited. It would be nice to but an end to what I call "gotcha taxation."
In thinking about it, I guess I'm a witch with a capital B.
It helps to remind myself that some people are strange.
Other people are brilliant.
Some of us are stranger than others.
I'm lucky in that I hang out with people so bright that I don't have to stay in the dark very long.
May you find your tribe and enjoy your time with them.
Love ya,
S.