Today I am thankful that I may have closure.
Maybe....
My ex-husband said he would be out of the house on May 1st.
I feel guilty because I was pushy about it.
He still swears up and down that he's not stalking me, messing with my computers and putting his family up to harassing me.
He says his family is doing it all on their own. He insists that they are breaking into the house.
He says that he doesn't know how they are getting their information. He thinks they are doing it electronically.
Maybe....
It doesn't make sense.
My ex-husband claims he has nowhere to go. If he's telling the truth and his family is stalking me on their own, they're doing it because they want him to be closer to them. I'm sure they'll welcome him back.
I do feel bad.
What if he's telling the truth?
His story doesn't make sense.
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I'm in the process of switching the utilities and getting a court order.
The reason he has to move by May 1st is that the children are on a state funded medical plan (CHP+). He's supposed to carry insurance on them. He "lost" his job.
I had to put them on state funded insurance in order to comply with Obamacare.
I received a letter from the State claiming that Michael makes nearly $11,500 per quarter. If he lives here, that income counts as my household income and the children will be kicked off of the plan.
The expensive health insurance through my employer has a $6,000 per person deductible. I may actually be better off buying something off of the exchange. I know which plan I'd like. It's not offered by my employer. It's an HMO. On the bright side, this HMO company is hiring, maybe I can get lucky and work for them.
I sell insurance on the weekends. This HMO is a really good deal...(hint...hint...KP....org). I work for their main competitor.
Yes, I am looking for another job.
My company does have other plans for people in managerial positions. I am applying for those, too.
I thought I would share.
The problem is that I feel crushing guilt.
I feel like I am throwing a victim out on the street. Other people tell me that I'm removing a predator from my life.
I know what I've experienced, being ignored, having money go missing, being yelled at, being stalked, having surprise crises crop up every few weeks, not knowing what to expect and so on.
I don't know.
I'll let you know what happens.
I've reached out to a locksmith and a local security firm. I need a security system and unbumpable locks.
I have someone coming out to give me a quote to repair the gutters. Once that's done, I can get new insurance.
I have a few male co-workers helping me find a safer car.
Someone found a pink '93 Toyota Corolla with 66,000 original miles on it two miles away. The owner doesn't want very much for it. I'm not sure I'll be able to pick it up because it'll probably be gone by the time I can get to the bank.
I was warned that some Toyotas can be easily stolen with a stripped ignition key. I'll be sure to make sure this model isn't one that can be easily started before I buy it.
That's my update.
I must remember to pay this help forward.
I'm going to owe the community a lot by the time this is over.
Love ya,
S.
P.S. There is another issue that keeps cropping up. I'm not sure how much to share.
Let's just say that men know when you care for them. They feel it. They want to explore it and take it to the next level. I'm too messed up to do that and there are men who don't understand the need for time to fix messes and heal.
I'm tired of feeling awkward about the situation. I need to move on.