State Laws that Put Women at Risk

Today I am thankful that I investigated State Law.

Apparently, men who still live in the same home as their ex wives don't have to pay child support.

It doesn't matter if they contribute to the home or not.

It doesn't matter if they refuse to move out despite court orders.

All that matters is that they share your address.

This explains why he won't move.

I get it now!!

He's avoiding child support.

Interesting....

It would seem that the state is giving stalkerish men reasons to harass the ex and avoid moving out.

It all makes sense now.

I may have to get a contempt citation after all as he won't discuss moving out and refused to fill out the paperwork needed for mediation. I don't want to get a restraining order or site him for contempt because I'm not sure what harm that could pose for his future.

Why would the state have such a stupid law on the books? I thought if I started collecting child support, he'd see that I was serious about moving on with my life and move the heck out of my house.

He's not working. It's not like they can collect it. If I put him on the child support registry, he will qualify for job search help from the state.

I thought it would help me get him out of the house.

He is promising to move out within a week of getting a job.

We'll see.

He did file a Quit Claim deed today, so the house officially belongs to me now.

I can start repairing it now.

That helps.

Sigh....

Love ya,

S.

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