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Ex-husband's Antics Remind Me of His Stalking Days

Today I am thankful for eagle-eye neighbors.

It seems like everyone is home now that COVID19 is in town.  The kids are doing online classes and the nosy neighbors see everything.

I work in healthcare so I get to work long hours.  On the bright side, I have face masks.

I'm working a lot.

Enter visitation.

I get a call at work shortly after 4:00pm stating that my ex husband is sitting on my porch pouting.

I'm unable to see his expression through the camera but I finish with my patient and call home.

It appears that he showed up for his visit an hour early without warning.  The kids were doing their online class and unready to start the visit.

This concerns me - His bizzare behavior seems to be amping up.

Sometime in the past month, he hacked one of my store accounts and overrode my phone number with his phone number AND a phone number that we disconnected eight years ago.

I remedied this by getting a new account.

He sent me a snarky message last week wanting to switch his visitation times as he assumed the kids were not in school due to the Coronavirus scare.  I told him that they do indeed have classes and that they were studying at the time he wanted to visit with them.  The eldest has a class that ends at 5:00pm three times a week.

Today, I received a message from a neighbor stating that my ex-husband was hanging out on my porch an hour before his visitation was to begin.

He never contacted me.  A neighbor did.

Now, I'm getting scared.

I wonder what's going on?

I'd ask him -but- I really don't want to hear that I'm a bleepity, bleep lousy liar who made up stories of his family's harassment and stalking.

I'm terrified of him.

I'm terrified of his family.

I've learned it's best just to avoid talking to them.

If I have any advice to share it is that if you want money, favors, a home or anything from your ex, be nice.

If you attack her continuously, she'll stop helping you.

NEVER attack her in front of a family law judge.  That's a sure fire way to piss off the person who may just help you skate out of paying your arrearages.  The judge changed the order to force him to pay every dime.

I wasn't even asking for that.

Be nice.  You'll get more that way.

Love ya,

S.


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