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Ex Husband Behaving Badly

Today I am thankful for documentation.

About 5:00pm, my children stated that they received a text message from their father stating that visitation had changed from Friday evening to all day Sunday.

Um.....

No.

I tried to get him to mediate visitation.  I spent $20,000 on legal fees.

He did not want to change visitation during our court hearing in November.

Alrighty then,,,,

I know the game.

Get the custodial parent to believe visitation takes place on Sunday and then show up on Friday (according to the court order).

If the kids aren't ready, then you sue her for visitation interference.

It's just better to follow the court order.

Besides - we have church.

No.

I'm paying $365 per month to pay off those legal fees.

I guess I'll have to get yet another loan.

Ugh...

My ex claims that it is because RTD furloughed him.

RTD is bragging about not having to furlough or lay off their employees.

I wonder what pissed my ex off?

I'd bet that he is the one hacking all of my accounts, too.

Damn.

I'm so tired of all the controlling crap.

I asked him to change the visitation order just to avoid the scenario above (where I get in trouble for making side agreements and not following the order).

We'll see how this goes.

Love ya,

S.

Edit: 05/01/20 -

Well,.....

trying to help him turned out to be a nightmare.

So he wanted to change the visitation times without changing the court order.  I spoke to him about getting more time - having dinner visits twice a week in addition to the Sunday he requested.

I wrote about teaching the kids to drive so that they could drive to see him whenever they wanted.

I caught him in a couple of lies about his schedule.  It didn't matter, I still tried to be helpful.

Then I asked for his address so I could send a written agreement to protect each of us -

he refused to give me his address.

He said that I'd have to take a day off of work and drive to the courthouse to get it.  That's not going to happen

Everything is shut down due to COVID19 - except healthcare.  I work in behavioral healthcare.  I can't take a day off even if I wanted to.

He is supposed to share this information with me as per the court order.

Then it turned into name calling.

So....we're just going to have to follow the visitation order until he decides follow the rest of the order.

I finally realized that he needed narcissistic supply because he is bored.  He needs to go back to work.

Now, I'm finally mad enough at Governor Polis to light my black candles.

I've been spending my Sundays protesting at the State House.  Our governor is an idiot.  I'm reading the science behind COVID19.  Our government paid to splice Coronavirus with HIV.  

Most people only have mild symptoms.

It's shocking to me that they shut down the government for mild symptoms.  I'm beginning to wonder if this was part of a bigger plot to remake our economy.

The governor's policies are going to get people killed.  Many people are losing their jobs and insurance.  They won't be able to get medical care should they get sick.

Crap, I can't even get medical care of my liver tumor or the lump in my breast because every thing is shut down.

Worse, I fear those policies are going to get me killed by my angry, stalking, creepy ex.

Tuesday is the day to pray to Ares.

I think it's time to beat the drums of war on more than one front.

Love,

S.





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