Living in a Junkyard

Today I am thankful that people are noticing that I've given away a lot of the crap in my house.

My ex was a horder.

Throughout the marriage, I felt ugly so I started hording dresses and shoes.

So far, I've had four visits from numerous charities to pick up donations and made countless vehicle trips to a couple of my favorite charities.

There is still far too much junk. I haven't even started going through the dresses and shoes.

Oh my.....

back in the day, when my elderly neighbor needed cash, he'd take something I didn't want and pawn it off.

I think I'm getting down to the stuff no one wants - he's now asking for money.

Sigh....

*****
I've spent the day bolstering up the security on the house, talking to lawyers and wondering how in the hell this shit hasn't stopped yet.

You'd be proud of me - I still haven't used my graveyard dirt or lit a candle.

I'm proud of me.

I even ignored my Psalm justifications. There are Biblical verses that act as curses. I could simply read the Bible out loud to curse the shit out of my stalker.

I didn't. Well, part of it is that a childhood friend gave me my Bible and I don't think he'd approve of it's misuse.

In my real life, I work for a religious organization. We hand out Bibles daily.

Maybe I'm starting to be less of a freaked out asshole. If I can refrain from being scared, I can refrain from scaring assholes away from me.

I need to get the junk out of my house and keep the junk out of my soul.

Wish me luck.

Love ya,

S.

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