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Why?

Today I am thankful that I understand my ex's motivation to stalk.

At least I think I understand.  I could be wrong.

He wants to portray me as crazy.

I think he (or his family) is harassing me due to my requesting a court hearing to review child support and to come up with a visitation plan he will like.

The reason I say this is because whenever I ask anything of my ex,

he brings up the stalking,

calls me a liar

and insinuates that I am crazy.

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He knows how his family behaves.

He knows that his sister stalks other people.  He knows that his relatives all act like a group stalking legion to annoy people they don't like.

Yet I'm the liar.

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I think he will try to use this as an ace in the hole to shut me down during the court hearing.

It will probably backfire on him, though.

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I learned from the city that the cops have not been to my home more than twice (the two times I called them - one over a neighbor parking on top some mulch I had delivered and couldn't get to and, the other to look for the intruder that may have been in the house).

The neighbors say that they've seen someone dressed as a cop on my property numerous times.

Could be a cop off duty.

Could be a security guard (my ex's sis used to work as a security guard - maybe he has other relatives who do the same).

Could be a stripper with a less revealing costume....

Who knows?

I don't.

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My kids' story is strange.

They heard a door slam at 12:36am.  The dog was barking and growling.  The eldest followed the dog to the front door and saw the handles being jiggled.

The cops found the two back doors were unlocked.

Why would an intruder jiggle the door handles to a house s(he)'d already visited?

Something seems off.

It's almost as if the sole purpose of the event was to scare everyone.

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A few months ago, my children were startled by a door opening and closing.

They chalked it up to just being their collective imaginations.

This is why we have a dog now.
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Something isn't adding up.

I hope the camera footage is revealing.

Love ya,

S.

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