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Stupid Steve and His Silly Girlfriend



Today I am thankful for my latest lesson; though shall not answer the landline after 10:00 p.m.
 
So....I dated a guy for a few months last year.  I'd known him for three years, off and on.  He'd break up with me every two weeks or so in part, because he wanted to "f*ck a twenty-year old" and all his other "girlfriends look like models." 

He'd leave and come running back.

After awhile, he'd act like a crazy guy to run me off and come back two weeks later.

The last time, he invited me to a concert and sold my tickets leaving me alone in the stands.  He did other creepy crap there. 

As far as I was concerned, that was too much for me to bear.  I'm not going to mention the threats and many creepy e-mails and social media messages.

Let's just say, he's not allowed to contact me anymore.  I will get a restraining order.

I blocked his number from my phones.
 
I blocked him.  He has a couple of aliases I've had to block.  I know they are Steve because....well....they write very personal things to me that only he'd know.
 
I guess it is possible that the weird crap is coming from Michael's family, too.

I guess it doesn't matter.  If I don't pay attention to it, I am sure that it will stop.

*****

Several times during our break-ups, a woman has called me crying and pleading for my help.  We'll call her Jane. I met her when I ran for office a few years ago.  She was a student at the Air Force Academy.
 
Imagine how we treat our woman soldiers and the things we allow the men in the military to do to them.

Remember how we stay mum about violent attacks.
 
Yeah....that happened to her.

She's never received justice.

She's been drifting ever since.

She developed a habit of calling me when Steve had broken up with me.  At first, I tried to help her.  She claimed she was homeless.  I had an organization reach out to help her and someone at a local university offered to help her finish college and find a place to stay.

One day, she calls me complaining about Steve.  She named his full name.  She said he was a friend of one of my friends and that he was going to post naked pictures of her online.  She said she had never met him. 

I didn't believe her because if they hadn't met, why would she have been afraid of him having naked pictures?

I told her to avoid him.  She wants a man to take care of her.  He doesn't drive.  He's irresponsible and wants to be taken care of.  I asked her to consider meeting her own needs and following her dream of returning to college. 

That must have really pissed Steve off.  He went off like a firework.

A few hours later Steve had made a fake Facebook account (under the name Steve Hensen) and threatened me on my public page. I think it was because I told the object of his affections that he didn't drive and wasn't who claimed to be.

 I think this was also the time someone sent me a screenshot of Steve's daughter making a suicide threat (which I forwarded to the county social service department who assured me that Steve was already on their radar). 

Well....
 
I need to change my phone number. 
 
Jane called last night from an 808 exchange. 

I'm not sure I've mentioned that I'm licensed in several states (including Hawaii) and that most of my clients are on Maui and Oahu. I probably could make a real living if I charged market rates (ooooh, an epiphany...thank you).

I thought it was a client.  I answered the phone.  It was late at night where I live.  In Hawaii, it was only 6:30 p.m.

She proceeded to apologize for ruining my life because of Steve.  I don't understand how she could have done that.  I broke up with him.  If they are dating, it's okay.

I told her that my anger the next day was due to messages he sent to me and a message I received  pertaining to his daughter.

Then she tells me that he was hitting on her during our relationship and that she was corresponding with him and even went so far as to meet him at a Libertarian function while we were dating!

This was the first time she admitted to knowing him. The last time she called me, she claimed she didn't know who he was (except that he had naked photos of her that he was threatening to post online).

I know he admitted to wanting to have relations with someone in her age group while he was hitting on her.

I don't know what she's worried about with regard to me.  It's a free country.  They can do whatever they want to do. I don't have to be near them. 

She continued to tell me about a sociopathic man she met who was hitting on other women while dating her (just like Steve did to me).  She told me that she's learned to hack accounts (just like Steve) and then I began to feel concerned that she was talking about Steve.

It sounds like she's trapped in a living situation with a sociopath!

I tried to warn her.  I'm worried about her.  I don't think I can do anything for her. 

I tried to warn her about how men like that track down people to take advantage of.  If you have left a bad relationship or have experienced a trauma (like a rape), they will try to take advantage of you in your weakened state. They hunt down people on the internet who are desperate and swoop in with love bombing.  Once they think they have you hooked, they go after your wallet, your time and your energy.  Once they've used you up or you've become wise to them - they'll go after your reputation. 

They'll have another love waiting in the wings.

Then when they used up their new love, they will come back to try to repeat the cycle with you.

If you give in to them, they are nice for a few days before they go back to their old tricks.

If you don't do what they want and, especially, if you have figured out that they are wacko, they'll call you crazy and slander you to their friends.

I told her he'd be back for her and asked if she had made any friends in Hawaii who could help her out.

She hung up on me.

What are the odds that Steve put her up to calling me.......again?
 
Ugh....
 
No matter.  I've got a plan in the works. 

Girls....read up on sociopathic behavior.  Borderline men act like sociopaths (their reasons are different) but the behavior is often the same. 

You deserve better.

Stay away from men like that!
 
And for goodness sake, do NOT call his ex girlfriend! Why is she calling me? 

This makes no sense. 

If you've won a man and wrestled him away from another....you've won.  Revel in your victory. Don't bug the ex.

Remember a man willing to cheat on one woman will probably cheat on you.

I'm sad that those things happened to her.

I can't help her anymore.

I pray she finds people who can.
 
Love ya,

S. 

P.S.  I am going to ask my friend writing the book on sociopathy why the new girlfriends call the ex girlfriends.  It's a little bit bizarre.  I wonder why they do that.

I will refrain from answering the phone after 9:00 p.m.

That'll stop a lot of the drama.
 
I really don't have time for that.

I don't really have time to talk about Steve, either. 

Avoid abusive guys. 

If anyone gives you a creepy vibe.  Run away......FAST!

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