Advice for Amber Heard (updated 2022)

Today I am thankful for these words of wisdom;

 "when someone shows you who he is, believe him."

I didn't care too much about the Amber Heard/Johnny Depp divorce.

I really didn't.

I didn't really understand what was going on until I saw numerous stories hit the press in which Depp's friends and family started to bad-mouth Heard.

Abusers do that.  They get so caught up in denial, they have their friends and family go out on a smear campaign.

Depp must've done it. 

This behavior is typical of narcissistic abusers. 

I've learned the hard way. 

I'll light a candle for Amber Heard and pray she can find herself a more honest heart.

Crazy people do what crazy people do.  It is no reflection of the person suffering from the abuse.

Don't waste time responding to the bullshit, it's done to draw you back into the abuse.

Ignore him and hope a woman will become his next prey....maybe another narcissist w/ Borderline tendencies.  They can bring narcissistic men to their knees. 

I don't think I'll be able to sit through any more of Depp's films after that.

What a loser!

Non-abusive men who are falsely accused of domestic violence do not go on emotionally abusive smear campaigns.  Only abusers do that - they do it to deflect attention from their wrongdoings.

You'd think Johnny Depp's supporters would be smarter than to become abusive in an attempt to prove their friend innocent of abuse.

They are proving his guilt.  With friends like that, one doesn't need enemies.

Sigh.....

People are stupid.

I am finally learning the lessons of being a stupid woman who believed the lies of abusive asshats.

I pray you learn my lessons before you live them.

Love ya,

S. 

Edit 4/22/2022

I cannot believe a judge was dumb enough to let Depp go through with defaming himself in a trial that appears to be an abusive asshat's dream. 

Oh...my...gosh...

I know abuser's like to pull the attention away from themselves and blame other people for their issues but, it appears that Depp doesn't know that this is only cementing that he's a narcissistic abuser hell-bent on gas-lighting his ex one last time. 

This will probably end his career.  Part of me wonders if he is funding those bizarre pro-Depp comments in the YouTube comment sections. 

Seriously? 

Whether male or female, once out of the relationship, a victim of domestic violence would stay away from a hostile ex. He or she wouldn't provoke an attack.   It is better to stay silent and let the abuser make his or her bullshit known 

exactly as Heard and her lawyers are doing. 

That judge would be wise to grant a mistrial. 

Depp pulled this shit with Heard in England and lost. 

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-61070988#:~:text=A%20British%20judge%20ruled%20that,in%20that%20case%20was%20denied.

Enough is enough. 

If I were that marriage counselor, I'd make sure my malpractice insurance would cover me in the event of a lawsuit. She isn't very bright either and needs to revisit the work of Lundy Bancroft and theories pertaining to reactive violence. 

I wonder if an MFT in Colorado can file a complaint against a psychologist in California?  I'll look into it.  That woman is triggering fear in victims across the nation.   

I fear for the men and women stuck in violent relationships with this trial.  I'm sure it's fueling numerous rages.  I remember volunteering with battered women at the height of the Simpson trial.  There was an uptick in cases. Men thought they could get away with Murder...

like O.J.

Ugh.....

when near a snake....

do your best to get away.  

Don't try to reason with a snake. 

 Don't try to charm a snake.

 Just get thee away. 

I pray the judge loses that seat on the bench.  Never give an abuser this type of attention.  When he realizes what he has done to his reputation, Depp will just scapegoat Heard harder. Abusers never take full responsibility for their bullshit. 

It is disturbing that Depp is being allowed to display his narcissistic abuse in full glory.  He is doing this to pull his ex-wife back into the abuse.  It's disturbing that he has found allies to do just that. 

It is what it is. 

It's an injustice to Heard.  I hear her.  Perhaps this is a good Saturday to meditate to Branwen.

Sigh, 

S.