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Silent Calls

The more I ponder this situation, the more I wonder who has the most control of whom.  Is he controlling me? 
Or does he perceive me to have control over him?
Why am I not allowed to get away?

Today I am thankful to hear the voice on one of my silent calls.

So much has happened and I don't know exactly what to write about.  In a nutshell, there are suitors everywhere - one is a local celebrity, another is a beautiful man with haunting blue eyes who I later found out was the manager who allowed me to park in his store's lot to hide me from my ex.  The man with the blue eyes has taken a security job at a local store that sells home surveillance equipment and, as he helped me purchase cameras for my home, he made it known that he wants to stay in touch.

You know, it doesn't matter how many men are near me, I can't get to know any of them due to the crap I'm enduring.  Yes, I hear complaints about my "walls" and my need to be secretive.

Yes, I am in survival mode.  You can't really date someone in survival mode.

There was one development that I need to share.

For months, I've been plagued by silent calls on my business and cell phone lines that last about 30 seconds to a minute each.

I've had trouble emailing people and getting messages.

My phones go offline quite a bit and when I can get them back online, I'll find ten or so of these silent messages.

Rather than listening to the entire message, I tend to listen just a few seconds into them before saving them.

Today I decided to listen to each and every one of them.

I received nine of these calls today. The fourth one was the most interesting.

It was silent for twenty seconds.  I heard a door open and shut.  Then I heard Michael's voice.

He was asking me if I received his text messages.


Then I heard my own voice growing closer.  I think I had just come home from work.

I said that I had and the call ended.

Michael is the person contacting me on my cell phone.

I just can't figure out why his phone number doesn't show up during these calls.

This is incredibly weird.

I wanted to document this just in case something creepy happens.

I know it has to be him. 

The worst part now is that my relatives are asking him for favors and referring to him as "my husband."  I don't like it.  I correct them.  He's continuing to insert himself into my life.

I don't know how to put a stop to it.   He was supposed to move out on April the 8th.  He wanted to switch his move out date to April 15th.  Then he swore up and down that he'd move in with his mother on May 1st to, as he put it, "stop the stalking."  He claims his mother is putting his relatives up to stalking me.

He's still here.  It's costing me a fortune.  I need to take stock of my options.  I know I can take him to court and have him evicted.  I'm not so sure that will put a stop to the stalking: I fear it will just make it worse.

Love ya lots,

S.

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