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How to Stop Harassing Calls

Today I am thankful that my generosity has solved a problem for me.


Steve's girlfriend keeps calling.

I'm not sure they are actually seeing each other now. 

They were seeing each other while I was dating Steve.

All I know is that Jane had a tendency to call me with problems when Steve broke up with me.

She calls to talk about being taken advantage of by abusive sociopathic men,

then she brings Steve up

and when I try to warn her about sociopaths and how they operate, she hangs up on me.

*****

In the past, Steve would harass me shortly after she called.

I wonder if Steve is putting her up to calling me. 

He has a way of coming up in her conversations.

He has a way of harassing me shortly before and after her contact.

This latest round of contact could have been the result of my blocking his new Facebook account due to the creepy messages I had been receiving.

*****

The last time she called here, she admitted to seeing Steve during our relationship.

Truth be told, I really don't want to deal with anyone connected with Steve anymore. 

There is too much drama.

I will help anyone I can....

unless they are trouble makers.

If she is reporting our conversations back to Steve, she is a troublemaker.

*****
Her last phone call was weird.

She started off by apologizing for ruining my life.

She knew I was angry.

How?

I never told anyone how I felt.

I was angry because Steve was harassing me online.  He went to a public page and made a bunch of crazy claims about me after I asked her to consider her own needs and to avoid men who are irresponsible and emotionally abusive.

My friends say he went on to slander me for several months.  Apparently, he is telling people that I sent demons after him.  I added that to my blog just because it was funny.  Truth be told, if I could control demons - the last task I'd have them complete would be to harass Steve and give him nightmares. He's not that important! 

I doubt that people can actually control demons.  If one could, what would one do?  Condemn them to hell?  Harass the Aurora shooter?  Tempt all statist politicians to dance with the Devil in the pale moonlight?  Never mind......I think the politicians do that now.

Anyway......enough of the cray cray.  One shouldn't be giving energy to nutty assertions.

Let's get back to Jane.

In that last phone conversation, Jane went on to state that she chased me off of Facebook for eight months.

I went off of Facebook due to Steve's creepy messages and threats.  There are a couple of other men annoying me, too.  They are not local but I don't like being propositioned by people I've never met in person.

I don't do much with Facebook now. I am looking into hiring a social media manager to deal with it for me.

I guess it is nice that she fessed up to seeing him.  It explains a lot, actually.

It explains why he would talk about screwing a twenty year old, how his other girlfriends looked like models (she does), and why his sheets were bloody and mutilated the last time he invited me over to drive him to the Phish concert.  He spent the weekend acting like a smirking jackass, leaving me alone while he hung out with women (who he claimed badmouthed me) and lying to his mother and people over Facebook.  When I got home and saw his social media posts about me, I promptly broke off our relationship. Then he became incredibly nasty.  I blocked him out of my life.

If he was seeing Jane (or even another woman), that could also explain why he sold my concert tickets, bought me a cheaper set and had me sit alone in the stands for a show.  Perhaps he was dancing with her on the floor.

It certainly explains why he was angry with his mother for being late and why he was worried about not getting to the venue early.  Perhaps he was meeting someone.

I don't know.

Maybe Steve had reasons for being a brat.

I guess Jane gave me closure.  I didn't want it. 

It does help me understand what Steve actually was.

*****

It worked out for me.  I met my current boss that night at the Phish concert.

I ran into him when I left the show crying.  He told me to "breathe."  I won't comment on what he was doing (not bad....I just don't want him judged).

Eight months later, I found myself at a new company going through the interview process. He told the HR people that he knew me but wasn't sure where we had met.  I got the job.

The company paid to get me licensed and offered me a seasonal gig.  I'm getting experience and other companies are trying to court me away.

In stressful situations, my boss still likes to remind me to "breathe."

He and the HR came up with the plan to thwart the stalking. I don't park on-site.  They keep my phone in a locker near the security desk in another building (so I can't be tracked). They have a shuttle take me to and from my car.

I'm not complaining.

It's a little bit funny.

Jane reminded me how gullible I am. I didn't see Steve's game until she started calling me.

My boss has reminded me how opportunities abound, even is dismal circumstances.  Everyone we meet may be important to us at some point in our lives.  Wonderful things happen when we are good to each other. 

*******

Sigh.....

Let me tell you how I solved the crazy phone call issue.

It's quite simple, really.

Michael lost his job and needs a decent cell phone to hunt for work and answer calls.

I didn't want to answer my phone.

I found a way to make it a win-win situation.

Michael needed a phone. 

So, I gave Michael my cell phone.

I upgraded my account, my phone and got myself a new phone number.  My business lines will forward to my new phone.

Yesterday, I learned that Michael has been talking to Jane on my old line.  It doesn't sound like they are in-depth communications. Maybe I'll give him a number to a charity that can help her.

I hope Jane has taken my advice about putting herself first and avoiding abusive guys.....

I hope...

I can't help her anymore.

If she dated Steve, I'm too close to the situation to help her.

I need to distance myself from drama. 

With the peace and the quiet, life is good.

If only solving other problems were this easy.

Love ya,

S. 

P.S.  I know my in-laws had hacked that phone at one point in time because the screen would flash like crazy right before I would catch Shannon watching me.  I'd look down, various screens would flash and it was a sign and a signal to look for Shannon or Doug.  I would usually find them a few feet away when that happened.

I don't know if they hacked the phone or my Google Account.  If they hacked the phone, they can now communicate with Michael and he can deal with his family on his own.

If they hacked my Google Account, my new phone paired with two part authentication will solve most of the problems. 

If good things happen when I ditch my phone and my car, I wonder what will happen when I sell the house? 

I'm thinking about it.

Stalking victims have to take responsibility for their own safety.  Sometimes that means leaving the things you love behind. 

Jobs....

Cars....

Phones...

and even homes. 





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