Today I am thankful for insight that helps me see how bad the gaslighting was in my relationship.
During my previous marriage, it was common to find pages online that masqueraded as me that had potentially embarrassing information.
There was the fake YouTube page with my name and the numeral 2. It was allegedly suspended for sending nasty messages to people.
There were also times my web pages were hacked and filled with potentially embarrassing stuff.
For example, once my Amazon account was hacked and someone created a wish list with a lot of vibrators on it.
I'm pretty sure my ex-husband pulled those pranks now.
In the past month, I've found bizarre charges on my credit cards which were disputed.
One of my banks sent me an email telling me that my personal information was found on the dark web.
All of these things were taken care of.
None of these things point to my ex-husband directly.
*****
Enter King Soopers -
Over the past month or so, I found myself unable to take advantage of the coupons I download on their app because someone else is using them.
I like to use the coupons to buy stuff for the homeless people I visit.
Over the past two weeks, my phone numbers stopped working at the cash register. When I went online, I found that my phone numbers were overwritten by my ex-husband's phone number and a phone number that was disconnected during the divorce due to harassment from his relatives.
So - it would seem, he's pissed off about something and trying to annoy me.
I initially thought it was because he wanted my gas points. I spend a lot at King Soopers (especially because there is a store across the street from Cherry Creek State Park and I buy a lot of gift cards to give to the homeless that are harassed by a local Republican activist at that park). Kroger gives double gas points for gift card purchases.
I cannot use the gas points because my Hypnomobile is a picky eater. My old Buick hates Kroger gasoline.
It rides like a hydraulic low-rider if I put that stuff in it. She jumps up and down, the check engine light comes on and it rides rough until I run it out of gas and put another brand in it.
Mike could have taken over my card just for the gas points.
Or he could have done it as an annoyance and show of power.
It was his phone number on my card!
We have been divorced well over five years. Why would he do that now?
Sigh....
No matter - I got a new account.
In the back of my mind, it's further proof that he was the one who was messing with my online accounts and websites after the divorce.
It's strange. The more we get away from gaslighting, the more obvious the bullshit becomes.
Listen to your gut. It's usually right.
Love ya,
S.
During my previous marriage, it was common to find pages online that masqueraded as me that had potentially embarrassing information.
There was the fake YouTube page with my name and the numeral 2. It was allegedly suspended for sending nasty messages to people.
There were also times my web pages were hacked and filled with potentially embarrassing stuff.
For example, once my Amazon account was hacked and someone created a wish list with a lot of vibrators on it.
I'm pretty sure my ex-husband pulled those pranks now.
In the past month, I've found bizarre charges on my credit cards which were disputed.
One of my banks sent me an email telling me that my personal information was found on the dark web.
All of these things were taken care of.
None of these things point to my ex-husband directly.
*****
Enter King Soopers -
Over the past month or so, I found myself unable to take advantage of the coupons I download on their app because someone else is using them.
I like to use the coupons to buy stuff for the homeless people I visit.
Over the past two weeks, my phone numbers stopped working at the cash register. When I went online, I found that my phone numbers were overwritten by my ex-husband's phone number and a phone number that was disconnected during the divorce due to harassment from his relatives.
So - it would seem, he's pissed off about something and trying to annoy me.
I initially thought it was because he wanted my gas points. I spend a lot at King Soopers (especially because there is a store across the street from Cherry Creek State Park and I buy a lot of gift cards to give to the homeless that are harassed by a local Republican activist at that park). Kroger gives double gas points for gift card purchases.
I cannot use the gas points because my Hypnomobile is a picky eater. My old Buick hates Kroger gasoline.
It rides like a hydraulic low-rider if I put that stuff in it. She jumps up and down, the check engine light comes on and it rides rough until I run it out of gas and put another brand in it.
Mike could have taken over my card just for the gas points.
Or he could have done it as an annoyance and show of power.
It was his phone number on my card!
We have been divorced well over five years. Why would he do that now?
Sigh....
No matter - I got a new account.
In the back of my mind, it's further proof that he was the one who was messing with my online accounts and websites after the divorce.
It's strange. The more we get away from gaslighting, the more obvious the bullshit becomes.
Listen to your gut. It's usually right.
Love ya,
S.