Today I am thankful for options.
When I was hiding from my stalker, I kept my hypnosis office but rarely saw clients so I didn't have to worry about my ex's family hassling them in the waiting room.
That happened too much when I did hypnosis full-time.
I paid the rent faithfully and still do to this day. I've been at my present location for well over a decade now.
The only job I could do safely was work as a supervisor in a call center because the premises was on lockdown and my ex would be arrested if he threw a fit.
Well,
I've finally felt safe enough to go back into counseling and work in a facility with security.
There have been no issues with creepy ex-husbands bugging me there.
It's nice.
I still see the occasional hypnosis client.
Get this -
I don't make much money.
Most of my money goes into education or things for the patients.
(shhh)
My caseload has grown from 50 to 75!
I've been given one three-hour group a week with the promise that my caseload would stay at 60.
(yeah right)
Everyone is quitting.
I nearly quit yesterday after growing tired of the negativity and having a nurse gaslight me and a patient.
It's a long story....
I'm working hours I don't even charge the company for. There are twelve-hour days (tomorrow will be fourteen hours). I asked to transfer....but everyone is incredibly short-staffed; it wouldn't be fair to do a complete transfer.
The problem is that I have too much respect for my boss. I just hate how corporate treats her and everybody else. Part of me wonders if that is why a certain nurse gaslit me and my colleagues complain so much.
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Work should energize you.
When I do hypnosis, I leave work happy, energized, and wanting to run a marathon.
Same with play therapy and art therapy.
This is also true of volunteering with the homeless.
My job just leaves me exhausted.
I couldn't pinpoint it until today.
I went in an hour early and felt like a badass running around and helping people whether or not they were on my caseload. People had needs. I filled them. I was energized.
Then a colleague complained that I had to help someone because the person assigned to her told a lie and refused to help her.
At that point, the energy drained from my body. I wanted to sleep so badly that I rubbed my eyes and smeared my eye make-up.
I spent half the day looking like a surprised raccoon! My colleagues and patients are far too kind to tell me to check my face. There are lovely people in the world.
Upon making it home, I crashed. I found myself awakened by a patient call. I answered (off the clock) and did a session.
Now, I'm hyper.
That is when I realized that I hate bitching. I can't tolerate it!
Okay...maybe that is the key to my survival.
Stay away from complainers.
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Here is the rub.
I just answered my email.
I was offered an interview for a medical call center position that pays MORE than I make as a counselor. It's not even a supervisory role!
Part of me wants to jump on it. It's located near my hypnosis practice. I could do both. Maybe if I do that, I won't feel as burned out as I do now.
What a sad day!!
What in the world causes mental health professionals to be so undervalued that call center employees make more money?
Sigh....
It would free up time to finish school.
I'm a master's level addiction counselor and certified expressive arts therapist (music, art, play therapy). I'm in school studying Jungian play therapy and am working on getting my Marriage and Family Therapy License. Once I gain those licenses, I'll probably just go back to my office.
In this business, the only way to make money is to work for yourself.
(Here's hoping that the ex is too old to bug me.)
That's food for thought.
I feel undervalued as an addiction counselor and it zaps my energy. Perhaps it is time to go where I'm valued.
It's sad I'm actually considering it.
Love ya,
S.
Edit 6/19/2022
Well...I think I'm depressed.
I had a convo with the boss at another facility and asked to transfer due to, what I termed, "toxicity." This was my second request. I was informed that they were waiting until my facility had hired more people.
Then another employee at my facility quit.
My boss will allow a part-time transfer which will take most of my caseload away. I struggle with abandoning my patients, especially if they see me at the facility part of the time. It could cause psychic distress to people wondering why their counselor dumped them.
Yeah, I understand that they don't want to lose other employees. The rub, was a tiny comment thrown in there about people in my age range. It was insinuated that, at my age, it's best to stay put. If I were younger, I could jump on new opportunities.
I need to stay grounded. I know a heck of a lot of counselors in my age range who have just switched jobs and are happy.
Rather than transfer, I am looking for another job.
I may wind up calling the medical call center tomorrow.
It's hard to imagine that this job is aging me. I'm having chest pains and joint swelling. It doesn't help that their insurance plan denies paying anything - even for physicals and labs with doctors, they recommend from their plan. I can't get refills on my blood pressure meds. Every time I call Blue Cross Blue Shield of Texas, I get a different story; (1) the lab provider is not in-network, (2) the lab is in-network but the doctor I saw was not in-network, (3) the doctor I saw was in-network but the wrong doctor signed the lab paperwork, and (4) We cut a check for $57.00 (half the cost of the labs) but it was never sent (no one told me why). I have been disconnected numerous times while waiting for answers. I've been meaning to fill out the long-form with the Department of Insurance in Texas and request an investigation. I'm not even receiving estimations of benefits (which is required by Federal law). They say they will send them. They confirm my address. They never arrive.
I'm sad to say this, it is time to leave the company before it kills me. I've taken on so much debt to set up practice the way they'd like it to be and taking courses to add new certifications so they can offer new services, only to find out that the company changes direction with the wind. They don't even help with malpractice insurance costs.
At least my investments are transferrable into my private practice.
Yesterday, I found a memo encouraging Medicaid fraud. I won't follow those rules. It's not their license on the line, It's mine. Luckily, I pay for outside supervision so I can get an honest take on the legality of certain practices.
We are in a recession. Jobs are soon going to be very difficult to find. It's time for me to jump ship and go back into private practice.
There is a part of me wanting to move to Longmont. I drove through last week and saw that the homeless population is burgeoning. With homelessness come the drugs that help people cope with the despair. Boy, oh boy, I sure hope Ms. Liberal Crazy Pants isn't still on the City Council. That could get awkward!
Life is short - may you live and work in an environment that gives you the experience of joy and allows you time to live rather than just make a living.
Love you,
S